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Am I selfish????????? Rss

for the people that say 8 months is too young.... their are many parents who leave their children as old as 6 week in child care for as long as 5 days a week!!! I made to feel that one day of "me time" is a crime! For those who say leave the spots for working mums... i live in canberra so its not like there is a waiting list!
I dont have the advantage of leaving my daughters with my hubby on the w/e because he works in retail (which involves w/e's) and my family are all interstate
being a SAHM is hard its demanding NO ONE IS DENYING THAT

BUT a STAY AT HOME MUMS job is to STAY AT HOME AND LOOK AFTER YOUR BABIES?????????????? or am i wrong??

i get my nails done on a day my son goes to daycare and zoe comes with me (its the mother daughter thing!!!!)

time for me is MAYBE an hour sleep on every second sunday, MAYBE a half hour bath once a month

while my babies are still little i wanna be with them, i have plenty of time for ME b4 i had my bubs and ill have plenty of time for ME when they go to school

just try and organise with your partner or family if they can take your 8 month old for a few hours while u go someowhere if u want

Yes I think you are being selfish- but hey what does it matter you are going to do what you want anyways!

Edited because I can't be bothered lol read your other replies and well see what i have said above lol


[Edited on 24/06/2008]
If you have the money to waste then go for it.

I know I can only afford 1 day of care and this is because I have seen many a Mother Struggle to do shopping with a Toddler and a Newborn.

Canberra has Bub and Mum Cinemas Days.

For your comment on its not like theres a waiting list depends what Centre you wont your Child in I have a friend who is a Director and her babies room is full and has a waiting list.

Each to their own.

They arent small for long....

I am in 2 minds on this one but a happy mum is always a good thing like "happy wife happy life!"when my boys were at preschool the director asked some non working (unpaid work) mums to change their days so the two working parents of the kids would have 1st choice of the days .maybe you could find occasional care which may suit your circumstances better
[Edited on 24/06/2008]

mum of 3 boys aged 11, 13 and 14

Hi my DS1 went to daycare at 6weeks old as i went back to work for 4hrs a day

My DS 2 started at 6months for social interaction and independence

my DS 3 will start soon for 1 day a week so i can go to tafe (more like 4hrs on the one day)

the two older boys go 2 days a week - these days i do mopping, shopping etc without them and i get to have a rest if i need to...

some say leave the spots for working families... my director is very good and i am very understanding... when a working parent needs an extra day or two i gladly give up my spot for the working parent...

no i don't think your selfish to want some you time... and i believe (having worked in childcare for 8yrs) that the younger they start the easier they settle...

Hasn't it been said before though that working mums take priority for childcare spots - so if she gets a spot it won't be affecting anyone else surely???

It's not something I'd do, and the reasoning to get your nails done or go to the cinema is selfish to me - but then I have never had my nails done and fairly rarely went to the cinema before Judd was born.

But if these things are so important to you that without them you're feeling unhappy and depressed then do it - a happy mummy equals a happy baby I think.

my dd is in daycare for the social interaction and on my doctors orders as i went through severe depression and needed time for appts and counselling, once we move my daughter wont be going back into care as i will just take her to playgroups for socialising and for me time i knew when i had children it doesnt exist anymore i was ready to be a mum even though that meant not getting nails and hair done there are cinema's where you can take children with you
im hoping to take rhylie to day care/childcare some time in the near future. for me i want him to go to learn new skills, espec things i just don't think of doing at home. he is 22mths old though. im not sure ubt i think he may be a little behind with his talking so i think being around kids will help with that.
i see where u are coming from wanting to have a bit of you time, and i think nothing of it, but it would be better to be sending a child that young to CC for the social and developmental reason, more so then yourself.
Charlie went to daycare every Tuesday while Jon was in Iraq. I was in WA and all my family is in Qld, which left NO support whatsoever. I used that time to mow lawns, wash cars etc, and all the stuff that I didn't like doing while Charlie was home. The staff knew that I was a stay at home Mum and that if someone needed that day desperately, then I'd give it up. There were a few times where I got a call early on the Tuesday morning saying they needed the space for someone else, and I also gave up my day on school holidays so that working Mums could have their kids in if need be.
Having said that, I kept her in for a month after he came home so that we could have every Tuesday to ourselves. He'd been gone for six months, we had a LOT of catching up to do iykwim wink.
I copped a lot of flak for it, but I knew in the end I was doing what was best for me and my child. I didn't go to movies or anything, but would occasionally get my hair done or have a massage. It's totally your own decision, but I warn you. Don't come on a forum like this asking for people to 'tell you it's ok'. Cos there are so many opinions on the topic, you might not like what you hear.

Posted by: jasmyn''''''''s mum
for the people that say 8 months is too young.... their are many parents who leave their children as old as 6 week in child care for as long as 5 days a week!!! I made to feel that one day of "me time" is a crime! For those who say leave the spots for working mums... i live in canberra so its not like there is a waiting list!


Why bother starting a post titles "Am I selfish??"
If you feel the need to justify why you arent eing selfish etc?

As for people putting their kids in to care at 6 weeks of age, I doubt any mothers would do that just so they can go watch a movie or get their nails done. It would be to go to work so therefore not being selfish.
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