We are toilt training my 2 year old daughter at the moment, and she is great as far as wees goes, and only has the very occasional accident. As for poos, she refuses to go in the toilet or ask for a nappy, and goes in her pants instead. I am losing my patience as we are constantly telling her calmly that poos goes in the toilet, and showing her etc. even tried bribing her with a new book that she will get if she manages it, and other treats but nothing works! She gets as far as sitting on the toilet and starts to push but then gets upset saying 'no, no i don't want to do poos!', she will hold on for several days as well, until it's really hurting her. It's like it's a fear of going that she has, as she'll say 'i don't feel very well' when she needs to do poos, and avoids the toilet at all costs - just quietly soils herself. I feel sorry for her too as she's often in pain and I don't want to be angry at her and make her feel worse but just don't know what to do. Any suggestions?