I got married at 18 viewing it as a life-long commitment, in the religion that I was in I wasn't allowed to get divorced unless he cheated. The bloke I married was a pathalogical liar and did well to put on a front for everbody, everybody thought he was a great guy me included. Anyway after the first year of marriage I had to take over the finances on account of all my saving dissapeared and no bills/rent were getting paid, after that he started to get verbally abusive and by the 3rd year of my marriage it was getting pysical.
Leaving and getting a divorce was one of the hardest things I have ever had to do. I had to leave my family religion and my closest family and friends shunned me. I had to start my life from scratch with only the support of my work collegues and my dad who lived 2000km away as my mum wouldn't talk to me.
Everybody situation is different and I don't think that by making a divorce harder to get is going to achieve anything. I don't think when anybody gets married they're not thinking about how difficult it will be to get a divorce 2 years down the track.
Spaceybrains, that must have been a very hard thing to go through and to me it sounds like you are one very strong and very brave woman.
after reading through some of these posts i would have to paqrtially change my earlier thoughts of 'yes divorce is too easy' to one of something a little different. in circumstances like yours and others of similar then i don't think that divorce should be made any harder than what it already is, if you are dealing with violence, abuse (substance, gamboling etc), adultery then you don't really need to deal with extra hard laws making it difficult to extract yourself from the situation.
but! and there is a but!! i think that if you are not in this situation and that you wake up one day and think, 'oh he's/she's not for me' then i think you need to reconcider divorce and try super hard to fix things, change things and work things out before you head down the divorce road. i have seen a study (and for those that like links, sorry i have no idea where i saw it now) that says that up to 80% of people that get divorced regret it 5 years later.
maybe people's expectations of marriage are changing? i certainly went into marriage knowing that it was something that would at times need work and at one point about 2 years ago i did consider leaving my husband because at the time it was 'all too hard' but i didn't and i'm glad i didn't i'm glad we worked though things and have come out stronger on the other side. i've also (about 8 years ago) been engaged and got un-engaged because he cheated on me and though i tried i just couldn't move past it. and i'm sure it wasn't as hard as getting a divorce but it was still a pretty horrible time.
so i think that perhaps there are 2 different reasons for getting a divorce
1) where there has been voilence/abuse etc and one party really needs to leave. in that case it shouldn't be made harder to leave and
2) when peoples expectations of each other or marriage don't live up to what is in their heads. or they forget that marriage has ups and downs. in this situation i think that other avenues need to be looked into and tried before heading down the divorce road.
BUT this is my opinion only, you can take it or leave it as you see fit.