I dont speak to my mother much, she lives in Tassie now, has been there for 7 years, I have never been there. She had major problems as a child that I suppose has made her into the person she is today. I have an 18yo and 16yo she has probably seen them maybe 8 times in their whole life and that was when she was living in WA. She never came to visit and we never went there because she couldnt stand the kids, they were too noisy, too messy etc. She loves them but not like I would think a normal grandmother would.
When I was pregnant with my first I had been married for 5 years and it was her first grandchild, the first thing she said to me when I told her was "dont ask me to babysit" she then moved 4 hrs away from me a couple of months before she was born. When I told her I was pregnant with dd she said "oh, cant you doooo something about that?" I said "why would I want to" she goes "oh, do you want it?". It is a big joke in our family that everytime me or my sister has a baby mum moves further away, she must think tassie is far enough because she didnt move for the last one haha. She is nice and kind of supportive in her own way, but from a distance.