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16 month old has been sick for 2 months and moved from cot in nursery to parents bed. How do we move her back?

We have tried Cry It Out for 5 days and she became hoarse and developed a cough and we have also tried Controlled Crying with zero success. This process of going in and "comforting" her at regular intervals made her angry and cry all the more.
In desperation we moved her cot beside our bed with one handrail removed and she is sleeping beautifully again, albeit she needs one of us in the bed whilst she sleeps. How do we transition her back into her cot and nursery when she is well again?

Jane ...
Answer: This can be a challenge but as long as she is well now and you're prepared to hear her cry then you will succeed. You need to be absolutely consistent and work with your partner. I know what you mean when you talk about the escalation in her crying when you re enter the room, often with toddlers they just get more upset if the parents go in and out all the time. You need to move her cot into her room, put the rails back on and stick with telling her to"go to sleep,lie down" and do this for every single sleep time and during the night when she protests. You are likely to have a very unhappy couple of days and nights but honestly, if you're tried the gently gently approach and she's now healthy and well, what else can you try? Although she's telling you what she wants you know what she needs. Unless you make the first move then she's going to want to stay exactly where she is indefinitely and you're not happy with this so change what you're doing to support her current reliance on you to go to sleep. She will cry and protest and be angry with you but ultimately you need to give her the clear message that she sleeps in her cot, in her room and you still love her but it's sleep time. Cheers Jane
Answered: 02 Sep 2012