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I have a 2yo & am 17 weeks pregnant. How do you get 2yo to understand that 'mummy is having another baby' so it's not a total shock when it finally arrives?

My friend has recently had her second child and her toddler didn't take it well at all, 3 months in and it's still not much better. I would like to try and avoid this situation as it would be terribly emotional for both toddler and parents.

Jane ...
Answer: At two years of age your toddler's comprehension is still very basic. You could show her photos of when she was a baby. Get her a doll and carry basket and talk about babies but ultimately, all will come to reality when your new baby is with you and your toddler learns what's involved in being a sibling. It really is a great gift to be given a brother or a sister, but to be honest, many toddlers don't appreciate this concept until they're a bit older. Aim to give her special one on one time when you can, but don't build up anticipatory anxiety about how she will react. Most toddlers revert a bit in their behaviour, get a bit sooky and more protests for a while until they adjust. But a matter of fact attitude by parents, not playing too much into it and keeping calm really pays off. Keeping the toddler very busy and tired at the end of the day also helps, as well as routine and structure which they love and which helps to support their feelings of security. Cheers Jane.
Answered: 16 Sep 2012