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hello, I have been trying to toilet train my 3 1/2 year old son for some time, I have tried to put him in cloth trainers and let him wet them, then showing him he wet them and calmly getting him to help me change them. I tried this for a few weeks it was

All this has been a six month long saga!

Jane ...
Answer: Sometimes it helps just to forget about it all for a couple of weeks and then start again. The child then renews and interest because it's become novel again. How far you go back to using nappies is entirely up to you but perhaps he's just not yet developmentally ready, is a little lazy or there's something else which isn't supporting him. Can he access the toilet easily? ARe you taking him to the toilet regularly and after every meal? Are you reminding him and actually making sure he's not focused on something else when you ask him if he needs to go? Sometimes it's just a matter of a couple of successful days and the child is set. As the weather warms you'll find it practically easier to train him as well. When he's in the backyard and wearing less layers and can wee on the grass etc. Some boys tend to be a little slower as well with toilet training and there is a strong genetic link between fathers and sons re. nighttimed dryness by a particular age. Cheers Jane
Answered: 30 Sep 2012