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My now 3yo no longer sleeps through the night since removing the dummy at Easter time. He used to sleep perfectly and I could walk out of the room before he fell asleep but now he won't go to sleep unless you are lying down with him. I've tried walking ou

3yo no longer sleeping through since removing dummy

Jane ...
Answer: Hi, This is not an uncommon issue, but if you need to lie down with him to go off to sleep at the beginning of the night and he's fully asleep before you leave the room this won't be helping him to learn what's involved in self soothing. He needs to learn how to go off to sleep on his own so that when he wakes up during the night-which is normal and all humans do this, he's going to know how to go off to sleep on his own. You'll need to change what you're doing in order for him to learn how to do this. Give him reassurance and soothing and follow a regular pre-bed settling and wind down routine at night and tell him what you'd like him to do eg. "lie down and go to sleep now" and be ready to repeat this multiple times until he learns that this is what he needs to do. You could also think about sitting on a chair beside his bed and sitting quietly reading a book; so that he can see you but you've stopped lying down with him. Basically you need to remove your physical presence from him and such close proximity so he learns that there's an alternative way of settling. You're done the right thin by his speech and teeth alignment by stopping the dummy. Don't look back on that decision. Also, check the Huggies site for information on toddler sleep and also http://www.cyh.com/HealthTopics/HealthTopicDetails.aspx?p=114&np=122&id=1899 You'll need to be fair and firm but very consistent in managing this, improvement can take some weeks and often, there's a worsening of behaviour before there's an improvement. Best Jane
Answered: 27 Aug 2014