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my almost 2 yr old daughter still has never slept through the night not in her own bed and not even when I have her in bed with me, she wakes 6 or 7 times a night crying and I have to be up at 5am and end up exhausted, how can I train her to sleep through

Her dad and I are so damn tired because she wakes up all the time crying yet when we go in to her she is still asleep, its frustrating, even when I have her in bed with me its no different, she has slept through the night a total of 7 or 8 times in the whole time she has been alive

Jane ...
Answer: Hi, It does sound like you are keen for her to sleep longer. You don't say if she's still feeding from you and what her general health and development has been like. If she's crying because she wants to go into your bed then you may want to stop doing that, she's likely to keep protesting until you relent and let her into your bed even if it's not really making that much difference to her sleep. And I'm thinking it may be worthwhile for you to have her checked over by your GP to rule out any physical cause for her sleeping disturbances. The other option is to get a referral either from your GP or CHN to go into an early parenting centre for a residential stay of a few nights. This can be very useful in terms of parents gaining support and new skills and guidance on how to manage toddler's sleep behaviour. The other tip is to check the Huggies site for more comprehensive information about toddler sleep and "camping out" where you could sit on a chair in her room or in the doorway and reassuring her but not lying down with her. There's lots of options for you to try but remember that most of them rely on you changing your current responses to her in order for her to learn that self settling strategies. And consistency, patience and staying calm is also really important. Best Jane
Answered: 20 Sep 2014