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Hi our 3 year old daughter is confidently fully emptying her bladder but having trouble with poos. Can we do anything to help her do poos on the toilet? We've started a "bare bum and wear a skirt after an accident" to see if that helps and rewards sys

Over the last year she had a rough time toilet training (she instigated training but would get really upset with accidents no matter how much we reassured her).
But now she is confidently fully emptying her bladder multiple times a day (not on demand just when she "needs to go" :-) ).
We are very proud of her.

My questions:
Can I do anything to help her do poos on the toilet?
I've started a "bare bum and wear a skirt after an accident" to see if that helps and rewards systems, will this work or what else could we do?
And she cries about 2 hours after she goes to bed to go toilet but won't get out of bed unassisted, I get her up and walk her and she cries majority of the time (inherited sleep talking/walking/crying type stuff from her father - they don't really wake up when they need too) so she is in undies until after she wakes up then nappy for the rest of the night as her body won't wake her up, Is this the right way to approach this or should I just leave it until shes older?

Sorry for long questions
Thank you

Jane ...
Answer: Hi, No worries re the questions. In a general sense there's often up to a 1+ year difference between bladder and bowel training. Your matter of fact and reward attitude sounds fine, just try not to invest too much energy and attention into this. She'll quickly learn that "holding on" will gain her more attention than if she does do a poo, and believe me, toilet training is best managed by a relaxed parental attitude. Avoid her becoming constipated and make sure she's drinking plenty of water. Encourage her to sit on the toilet after meals and at pretty much the same time each day. Sit on the floor beside her and read a story together, but if she doesn't go, avoid long sitting sessions. A sticker/reward chart on the wall of the toilet may help. And the undies until later in the night makes practical sense and really that's what counts a lot of the time in this age group when most toddlers are still going through transitional stages of being dry and fully toilet trained. Just be mindful that the 2 hours of crying when settling and requests for the toilet may very well be attention seeking rather than a legitimate need to use the toilet. Be clear with her that it's bed time and keep your attention and responses very matter of fact. Check the sleep/settling information on the Huggies site re toddler sleep. Give her time, be patient and kind with her. By far most issues in this age group just resolve themselves without too much in the way of particular management strategies. Best Jane
Answered: 17 Dec 2014