I just found out my girlfriends son has been diagnosed deaf : ( I don't know what to say to her to make her feel ok. Anyone experienced this?
I dont think there's anything you can say to make her feel ok about this, but what you can do is be there for her and ask how she's doing, be there so she can vent or cry on your shoulder - no doubt she's in a bit of shock at the moment and sad. Maybe invite her over, or out for a coffee.
I'm not sure about offering to make meals for her, perhaps she would need help with babysitting if she needs to take bub to appointments or whatever but I think that's jumping the gun at this stage - for me I'd feel bad for my baby not being able to hear, but baby is still ok - not like terminally ill or something... cant find the right words but offering to make meals and look after her other kids doesnt seem the right thing to do in this situation.