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does anyone or has anyone had a problem with there sex life after having a child
my gal is almost one and i am only just getting my libido back and im surprised my partner has waited as he has been awfully frustrated as i neva did anything while pregnant either
i would like for people to share your thought
have you felt the same
or am i just weird

I don't think you're weird but you are lucky you have an understanding partner. My sex drive lowered heaps while I was pregnant although we still were having sex up to Jessika's birth, but it is back after only two months since birth. I have to admit though I am sometimes too tired. You should try to have time alone every two weeks. My partner and I try to get out and have a hit of golf or have dinner and we are only gone for a couple of hours but it is time for us to be together, like a date. We are lucky nanny loves looking after her. If you don't feel like sex, you can still be intimate and kiss and cuddle.

P.S You would hope he'd wait otherwise its a kick to the curb with him.

hi
my bub is four months and my sex drive is slowing coming back and things are final feel back to normal down below. Everyone's drive comes back in it's own time. I think it's got to do many with many factors such as tiredness, being a mother and a women, time.
Your lucky to such a great husband. I too hardly had sex during pregnacy. My partners has been good and patient but couldn't resist the porn on the net. (oh well)
Don't feel alone there's alot of women feeling just like you!!!!!

Hi mummy1300

No your not weird, I've heard it happens to lots of people, they just dont admit it...

My daughter is 1 now and I still have low libido, I hardly ever feel like having sex, although I do to satisfy my partner as I still love him heaps and I do enjoy it but I never feel like initating it.
my partner also gets frustrated when I 'cant be bothered' but he is also very understanding.

Heres hoping it will come back oneday!!!!

My baby is nearly 6 months and I'm only just starting to get my libido back a bit. I had a botched episiotomy that has left me very sore for a LONG time, so that put me off - almost like being a virgin again! didnt want to try incase it hurt too much. I'm having an operation next week to fix it, so I'd imangine I'm going to be back at square one again.

Also at the start when baby was little and waking lots during the night, I felt I should be sleeping myself rather than fooling around. Luckly I have a very patient partner.

Hi mummy1300,

You certainly are not alone. My daughter is 14 months old and my libido is still low.

The tiredness which comes with being a mum takes its toll and sometimes sleep can be more important, especially when you have had lack of sleep the night/s before.

You definitely aren't weird - you're 100% normal

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I am exactly the same as you, my hubby has also been good.

My little one is 1 on the 14.3

Hi

I too have been suffering from a lack of sex drive. I have a four yr old daughter and it has never been the same since (i am surprised we have a second child) I too have a very low sex drive while pregnant. I think that it will come back one day I just hope for my husbands sanity and his hand that it happens soon. He is wonderful and patient but it must be hard on him. I have been seeing a natropath and things are looking up. I think that the main problem is a mixture of lots of things...tired, trying to do everything you used to in less time, getting back to pre baby body, if breast feeding trying to remember that they were used for things other than feeding a baby and just the emotional roller coster of having a baby to look after comfort and bond with. Parenting is not easy and for me the thing that has suffered is my sexlife....but I am not the only one and there is always hope. I think I am on a good thing with the natropath I will let you all know

Cheers!!

Hi Mummy1300

I know I'm a late comer to this topic but I am exactly the same. My son is coming up 4 months and I have absolutely no drive what-so-ever to have sex with my husband. Unfortunately he seems to be the complete opposite - he wants it every day ... so I do oblige ... but very reluctantly.

I will say though, most of the time, once we've started, I do tend to start actually feeling like it (lucky for my husband!!).

I'm sure our libido's must come back eventually!! wink

hi debs

no way your not late its nice to know ppl still read it and no they are not alone
it will come back though beleive me although in my case my fiance was thinking that i didnt want it because i was getting it from elsewhere so i had to prove him wrong (and for the fact that sex is a gggrrrreeeaaaattt way to lose those extra kilos

hang in there sweetie although im not bac to the way i was i prob neva will be just as long as your man understands anyway a snuggle and a peck on the forhead (for me) is just as good

good luck
mandi

This sounds so familiar. I have a nil sex drive at the moment while pregnant, and it was pretty low after George was born. Like some of the other mum's here I enjoy it once started, but am not interested in initiating anything which my husband is finding very hard.

I hope things improve after this baby arrives!