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How do you make close friends...... Lock Rss

Hi all,

Just wondering if you guys have close bonds with any mums you have met since having your bubs?

I like most mums have drifted from most of my childhood friends which I had really until I was pregnant and slowly we have drifted apart.
I see my mums group on a weekly-fortnightly basis and while they are great girls and we all get along well I am not sure if I bond as such with them to call them a 'close' friend. I feel comfortable enough to talk babies with them but dont think the friendships are close enough to talk if I had a big problem as such in say my personal life yet.

I guess I feel like I dont have anyone I would call a 'best friend'

I would love to get closer to people that I share a common interest with but unlike my childhood friends I am not with them all day long like you are in school to get to know them more so I am not sure how to try to get closer to them.

Do you find it is a natural thing where you guys bonded straight away or is it something that you worked on a bit and if so what did you do?

Thanks in advance for any advise
hi there
im srry i dont have any advice but i feel the same as u.I had what i thought were close friends at work but since having bub have found there not really friends at all.im finding myself spending alot of time alone and it does get u down after a while.
I do miss having that best friend where u go see a girly flick,spend all hubbys money shopping or just having a heart to heart over a coffee and chocy.
i didnt really click with anyone at mothers group which was a shame as i thought i would.i think for some its natural to bond and for others like me u need to work on it.

are u quite bubbly and forward or are u a little shy like me and sit back waiting for people to talk to u.

sorry i couldnt help
I am similar to you darkandstormy in that I don't really have a 'best friend' any-more, but wish that I did. I've had a transient life style with work which doesn't help I suppose. I have found the people I have bonded the most with since having DD are interstate. Sure its lovely to e-mail, chat on MSN and catch up in person every now and then, but I wish I had a 'bestie' - lol.

I find that people I don't 'click' with straight away, I never bond with as such. Usually my gut instinct about people is spot on. I'm not like most chicks though so probably not the best example - lol.

DD is 3yr 8 months - DS is 6 months

Hi Guys
Can relate to this thread pretty well I reckon. I was lucky in some ways as my best friend fell pregnant not long after I did, so we still had plenty in common. My other friends kinda drifted away. I have since made two close friends through our Playgroup. Mind you, my son and I joined the group when James was six months old, and he is now nearly three (birthday in end of August). It has been only the last 6-8 months that I would have described these two particular ladies as 'close' friends though. I get along with most of the people in our playgroup (we have a great group, minus one mother but she doesn't come very often anymore anyway). I guess it just takes time and trust to build up to close friendships. For me, I can say first impressions mean everything to me. I have learnt to trust my intuition over the years and those people that I get good feelings about are usually the ones that prove to be the ones I feel most comfortable with over time.

James' Mum

I know when I wasnt pregnant thats when I had best friends but soon as I fell pregnant and wasnt going out and drinking thats when they didnt want to know me and it hurt and I dont go to playgroup but we go to swimming and but I wouldnt call them my best friends.

I know if someone has a simlar personallity to me thats when I bond very easier but it takes me a long time to trust in people cause I have been done over to many times.

Out of all the girls that I went to school with I only talk to one and she has always been there for me.

Tracey,Jaye (girl)12/06/05, Sam (boy)10/07/09

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Hi Everyone
Atlast I know that I am not the only one who can't make friends very easily......I thougt its only me a s i am a quiet sort of person , very down to earth, can,t express myself very easily(specially when i meet someone in person.but can do it pretty good when over the phone or email or chat room...met my DH that way.....peculiar isn't it /.)....get husrt easily. but now know that there r people like me out there.
naz
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