Like you, I was not well informed about settling techniques when Keegan was newborn, maybe we were told, but I had "deaf ears"!!. I also had trouble with my milk coming in so was told by the lactation consultant to put baby on the breast as many times as possible!!! So as a result Keegan used to fall asleep on the breast, and everytime he awoke from slumber, I would put him on the breast thinking that he's hungry. I was so frustrated not knowing how much he was taking, and as they say "breastfeeding on demand"!
Well we should give ourselves more credit! We're not doing anything wrong! Of course we wouldn't be discussing this issue if our babies slept how they are supposed to. Sometimes I tell myself that as long as my baby is a healthy and happy one that's all that matters. Like you I also hope that his sleep associations will just wear off ~!!!!!!!!! Apparently, they don't - they evolve!!!
At least Hayden sleeps well during the day even on the boob! Keegan used to sleep 30 minutes, then he went through a period of sleeping up to 2 hours which was heaven to me and now he's back to sleeping short durations again. I push him on the stroller to sleep during the day but its hard work so sometimes I just succumb and give him the breast! Do you have to wait a while until he latches off or is in deep sleep, then put him down? When you put him down, does he stirr and wake up..???
Right now my hubby is home from work early and is trying to put Keegan to sleep..good luck! I think we might just head out for some night shopping!!! Is Hayden talking yet??? My SIL had her bub on her boob to sleep till the baby was 15 months..at that stage, they can basically understand you more..soooo maybe we can try that from 12 months (not long for you!). How long are you intending to breastfeed Hayden for?
Have to run, look forward to hearing from you!
Frazzled mom, loving it tho'