yeah, i have also heard that if you let them play with the food first they feel involved. I would give it a go.
One of my girlfriends also has this problem with her little girl, and she is now doing one spoon custard and one spoon pumpkin (or veg) and it goes on like this at meal time.
Maybe trying more finger food like banana, cucumber, watermellon, rockmellon, avocado, canned peaches, apricots pieces of pinapple and orange any fruit can basically be finger food. At least you know she might eat it because its sweet. Its just as good for her as veg.
I also have given my little 9month old boy a raw carrot peeled and a bean while in the supermarket just to get him to eat it. Maybe try it uncooked it has a bit more taste that way and normally if its raw it can be finger food. What about things like cruskits instead of bread? or those sa.ka.ta rice crackers. Cheese is another good one! if you are worried about the stick's of cheese try grated cheese its small and for picky eaters its something different. But just keep thinking outside the box. If you give finger foods you might just be better off.
Hope this helps.
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