Laura, NSW, excited new mother
Rena, NSW, 8 month old
Sonya, WA,9mth baby
Our daugher is 14 weeks old and from day 1 my husband changed nappies, bathed and dressed her, etc. He still does this without giving it another thought and usually fights me to do these tasks.
When he comes home from his daytime work, he and Madeline sit in his chair and chat and most times will dose off for an hour. I usually use this time to go for a walk along the beach and to have a little time for myself.
He also has a second job working from home, so after dinner he usually does a few hours and then will come up to put her to bed at around 9-10pm (if she is still awake then).
I think it is important for a father to bond with their children and spend as much time as possible together (without mum in view) so that they both don't become too dependent on mum.
It also helps to give me a break (especially at 3am some nights when I am absolutely exhausted and can't settle her).
There doesn't have to be a set amount of time. Use whatever time he can spare. We have now started giving Madeline a shower/bath in the 'big' bath, so this is another time for my husband to spend with her. They both love it!
I know mum's already have that bond with their babies, but I think it is extremely important for dads to get involved as much as they can. I know that our son is very well looked after by my husband. he does such a wonderful job and he loves it.
My son Jack gets very upset if Dad leaves him for the day. He is always wanting to do what dad does and follows him everywhere. I think it is great.
So dads ignore those who tell you that it is women's work. It is very rewarding to see the dads get in and have a go.
Melissa, Forbes NSW
My husband also stays at home looking after our nine month old daughter while I bring the bread home for the day.
It is wonderful to see how babies seem to bond extremely well with dads.
I do wish I also worked close to home like yourself, but instead, its close to an hour away.
The weekends and nights are my baby and my time together.
I don't know about you messysg1, but I felt kind of funny leaving him at the start to do mothering while I worked but its great to see him coping so well and our girl loves him to bits. Sounds as if your husband is also a wonderful carer.
How old is your baby?
My nine month old is going through a process of seperation anxiety and wakes from sleep a lot. We both do take turns in night jobs of caring for her as I feel he is getting the bad end of babys first year.
Tantrums and so on and yet, she still isn't showing signs of teething! A fun few months that have yet to come for him and her.
But I know they'll handle each other just fine.
Yay, and good on those who have swapped roles of mums and dads, it works great for us.
Just as rewarding.
I have not met a father yet who is not a hands on dad! My husband gave our baby the 1st bath, changed the 1st nappy, wrapped her for the 1st time and still, 6 months later, is even more involved. He cant wait till he can give her a bottle and give her the comfort I can.
Let dad spend as much time as he wants to with your bub.
nance 1st mum 30/01/03