Hi,
I am new on this site and i just read your above message. I know it was adressed to Sasha but I just felt the need to write to you about it.
You say that the romance is no longer there, but I would like to ask you to think back to when you first fell in love, could you still feel that way even now? I read about a couple who were going through a similar thing and the wife had a bit of a personal crisis about separating because they had a baby daughter, anyway she did a bit of soul searching and asked herself the above question, and she realised that she absolutely loved her husband and that they just had to find what they had before. It just took things like finding a baby sitter and going for dinner, or after the baby was asleep having a candle lit dinner (sometimes it was just a pizza, but there were candles!!!!), and just making the time to tell each other that you love them. She realised that they hadn't "fallen out of love" as they say, they had just misplaced it somewhere else.
If you and your partner still have a good relationship in terms of getting along, then it would be wonderful to hear that you have given finding romance again a try, for the sake of your baby and more for yourself. Having someone with you to help is the most wonderful thing. To see your child growing up, together. The possibility of having a brother or sister for your baby, all of these things are great reasons to stick with it and give it a go. Your baby deserves the best. I apologise if i have spoken out of turn, but I work with kids who have separated parents, and I always get told that they want Mum and Dad together.
I would love to hear from you.
mum to Alija 7 mnths