Mummy2Be smile wrote:
Thanks ladies. I do know that he should just snap out of it as baby is way more dependant and important than he will be at the time. I know this will sound bad… but a couple months ago he got so bad he wrote a suicide note and left. After a lot of chaos I got him to snap out of it and he apologised for it and promised never to do it again. And I believe him. But I don’t want to risk him getting to that point again. Not only for his sake but mine. Loosing him would kill me. He is the most amazing and supportive person it the whole world and I couldn’t imagine my life without him. Its not often that he gets like this, but it’s a huge burden on my when it does, because he relies on me to get him out.
I know a lot of people would just say get rid of him because of his depression as it brings me down, but I would rather have these moments every now again than not have him at all. Hes been on medication before and I hated him when he was on it. He was so emotionless. Never excitable or energetic. It was just.. well.. BLAH…. I am trying to get him involved in the pregnancy and he loves it. I am just hoping that when baby comes hes going to realize what a miracle it is and realise that there is now someone that requires looking after. That will be completely dependent and make sure he doesn’t get down. But at the moment, im just HOPING.
ok, so he definately needs help and needs to get to the root of the depression. i think the suicide note was more a cry for help and for attention if he really wanted to do it he would have.
he needs couselling and i think you might need to be a bit tougher in that you need to tell him that you won't be able to give him as much attention when bub arrives and he can't rely on he to fix this when he gets depression you don't want to be a cruch for him or then he will never get professional help and always rely on you.
maybe you need to be pro active and show him that he are serious but also want to help and find a cousellor or some sort of support group and encourage him to go.
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