Hi, I'm now almost 30 weeks pregnant and my husband kicked me out of the house a few weeks ago and choose his Mother over his wife and baby. I live with my husband and his mother. My husband is a FIFO worker therefore I am left to care for his mother. In the country they originally come my MIL led quite a privileged lifestyle and had nanny's raise her children and people cook and clean for her so she is very lazy and doesn't believe she has to do anything for herself. As a result, since we have been married she considers me her carer. She is very capable but acts as though she is an invalid. Anyway I work full time, get home late and then I'm treated like dirt by her every night. She considers herself to be queen of the house and that's how my husband treats her. They are from the Middle East and she believes they I am beneath her because I am not the same religion and I should always do what her and my husband want. Basically I'm not allowed to have a say in my own home. She spits at me constantly and is the most cunning and most evil person I have ever met. However she makes herself such a sweet innocent and frail old lady when their are people around.
Anyway I am struggling big time. I have a high risk pregnancy and have been extremely ill and working long hours then having to deal with her when I get home and then cook and serve her all night then prepare all her meals and snacks for the next day has absolutely shattered me. If she appreciated me that would be a different story but all she does is make up lies about me and spit at me. Anyway I told my husband (throu text because I'm not allowed to speak about his mother) that I was breaking down and all I do every night that he is not home, I cry all night. Anyway he pretended that message didn't exist and because I'm scared of him screaming and yelling, I didn't say anything further.
A few weeks ago I hit rock bottom and while he was working away, I sent another text saying that I need a break from looking after his mum for just a few months when the baby is born because I will struggle plus I want to spend time alone with him and the baby for a few months. We live in a tiny house and there is never any privacy. Anyway his response was to either shut my mouth because he has told me that I can never speak about his mum........or pack up and leave now. So I did, I packed up my essentials and left. This was all done my text. When I told his mother, she was very happy.
He won't see me or talk to me and I'm breaking down. I truly cannot believe how a supposed loving husband would throw his wife and baby on the street over his mother. I don't sleep at night and I'm breaking down not knowing what to do sad
I never told him that I wouldn't continue looking after his mum, all I asked for is a few months break.
Anyway I am struggling big time. I have a high risk pregnancy and have been extremely ill and working long hours then having to deal with her when I get home and then cook and serve her all night then prepare all her meals and snacks for the next day has absolutely shattered me. If she appreciated me that would be a different story but all she does is make up lies about me and spit at me. Anyway I told my husband (throu text because I'm not allowed to speak about his mother) that I was breaking down and all I do every night that he is not home, I cry all night. Anyway he pretended that message didn't exist and because I'm scared of him screaming and yelling, I didn't say anything further.
A few weeks ago I hit rock bottom and while he was working away, I sent another text saying that I need a break from looking after his mum for just a few months when the baby is born because I will struggle plus I want to spend time alone with him and the baby for a few months. We live in a tiny house and there is never any privacy. Anyway his response was to either shut my mouth because he has told me that I can never speak about his mum........or pack up and leave now. So I did, I packed up my essentials and left. This was all done my text. When I told his mother, she was very happy.
He won't see me or talk to me and I'm breaking down. I truly cannot believe how a supposed loving husband would throw his wife and baby on the street over his mother. I don't sleep at night and I'm breaking down not knowing what to do sad
I never told him that I wouldn't continue looking after his mum, all I asked for is a few months break.