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My bub is 10months old now and im going crazy im a stay at home mum due to partner not wanting bub in child care and i have no social life always stuck in the house doing things with my bub, i try to make excusses to get out of the house and do stuff but it always fails my partner insists on going to the shops on the way home from work so i cant even duck out and go to the shop, just been feeling so trapped some times to the point i feel like i cant breathe or i just burst out and cry, im trying my best to be the best mother i can be but i just feel like im doing every thing wrong and letting my bub down. Does/have any one experianced this and how did you deal with it?
Yes it can be hard. Have you joined a Mother's group? That would help heaps. I know it did for me.

Hello my dear friend, I am sorry to hear about your problem and you should not take stress because of this problem. You can easily find a solution for your problem and it is important to consider various factors for it. It is a good thing that you are giving too much care to your baby and you are able to give it complete time. When it comes to finding a solution to this problem, you should talk to your partner. He should also give much time to your baby. You can take your baby out in any park or any other place where you can feel better. It is not easy to stay at home all the time and no one can do it. You need some good friends who can understand your feelings and who can help you to be happy. You can join any mum group or you can find some good friends near your home where you can visit during your day. I can understand that your husband does not want to rely on any child care for your baby. Your baby is only 10 months old and he needs more care with its mother. You should wait for the right time because you will find a good solution to this problem soon. In this condition, you should not stay alone and sad because there are many things that you can do during your day. You can learn anything new at your home or you can visit anywhere with your baby to find happiness. To find a good solution, it is important that you can talk to your husband about this problem and he can understand your issue.
Sounds awful, why is you partner treating you like this. You are more than just a mother, that isn't your only job in life. Tell your husband stuff what he wants - do what you want and need. Find a part time job, pop child in child care or a part time nanny - do what is right for you and your child not what is right for your partner.

There is no way I would put up with a controlling partner like that, you aren't just a baby factory you are an individual and you need to grow and develop or in 5 years time you would have lost all identity
I found joining a parenting group such a teeny tots, playgroup/play centre really helped. Gave me a reason to get out and socialise and help my LO socialise as well. I also made some of my best friends through doing that.

I know it can be hard, but it is important to talk to your partner about how you feel, there is such a thing as cabin fever especially with a child at home!

Good luck!
Sorry to hear this, and that is not very supportive of your partner. If you've already had a serious discussion about this and how its affecting you, I think you should join some mother's groups in your area with similar aged bubs! I have a 16 month old baby girl, and I speak to and see fellow mums in the group regularly, and have made some great friendships through it! We go on walks/runs with our babies - its great for us and for our babies! The fresh air helps everyone. Don't let your partner control everything! It's a partnership xx
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