after DS was born, DH and i were having an argument, and in the heat of the moment, i told him he could do whatever he wanted (including smoke weed)... but on condition that it was only a 'once in a while' thing. i was VERY clear that i didnt want him smoking anywhere daniel, and that it wasnt to be every day, rather every week or two.
well, that went out the door, and now there's not a day that he doesnt smoke. it makes me so angry because we dont have the money to waste, but he buys it anyway. and he smokes EVERY day, without fail.
ive spoken to him, and told him he's abusing what i said, but he wont listen. his response is always 'if thats what you think'. i ask him why he has to smoke every day, and his excuse is 'it takes the pain away' (he has a very physical job)
i dont know how to get him to cut down. ive tried the guilt trip, tried telling him i hate what hes doing, tried compromising... nothing seems to make him stop.
i resent the fact that he smokes cigarettes and weed and he drinks, and i've got no 'outlet' as such. every bit of spare money that we get i put away for a 'rainy day' so i never have any money for things that i want, but he does.
am i being unfair in wanting him to cut down (or even stop)? and how can i get him to see my point of view???
Tania. WA, Daniel - 26/01/06... smile