His boys want to stay with us in the holidays and i'm starting to dread it. His daughter also wants to come over at christmas. His daughter uses emotional blackmail on her father to get her own way on a regular basis but i'm more worried about my son and how they will be towards him. My first priority is my baby, not their feelings.
I'm also worried about the way his boys treat my older son, constantly on his case telling him not to do this and not to do that. He doesn't even have to do anything. They also think they have the right to send him to bed just because they don't want him around.
They also won't clean up after themselves. When they last stayed i asked my partner to say something but he didn't. Instead i got angry because he wouln't say anything and i was left to clean up their mess. I get to the point when they visit that my son is with me 24/7 and if i'm going out and my partner is staying home, i will still take both my older two with me as one day i caught one of the boys being phsically aggressive towards my son. My patner acted then but why did it have to get to that stage before he did anything. Sorry this is so long but i'm at a loss as to what to do and any advice could be really helpful.