Those health professionals can be really "toxic" and some of their advice is just plain shocking.
If it feels right for you and it works and you are happy to do it then it's NOT wrong! They tend to treat every baby the same, when in fact they are all individuals and should be treated as such. I think it is largely due to certain baby "experts" who insist that babies should be doing x,y,z from a very early age that mums have these high expectations of their babies, that are in most cases unobtainable.
When I had DS1 I did what I "should", I did what I was told and I spent so much time worrying about whether I was doing the wrong thing that I forgot to enjoy my baby! This time I have been doing what feels right, which 9 times out of ten is what I "shouldn't" do, but it is working for us and I am much happier as is the rest of the family. The first child is unfortunately the "lab rat", and every one that you are blessed with afterwards is just along for the ride. Alex is a really laid back baby compared to how his older brother was, but I think that has alot to do with the fact that I am much calmer than I was first time round and how I am choosing to parent. I am also finding that my calm, easy going nature this time is rubbing off on how I interact with DS1 and in turn is rubbing off on him.
Sorry, didn't mean to ramble about parenting styles". So yeah, those health professionals need to be more on board and try to take each individual case on its merits instead of trying to pigeonhole them into one category. There's not enough support out there for new mums, whether it is your first baby or your tenth; plus I tend to find that if you have more than one child that it is automatically assumed that you know what you are doing. LOL For the most part it is true, but not always and I find that I am actually parenting in the complete opposite way that I parented DS1 so sometimes I think I'm starting all over again.
More support all the way round!!! smile]