I think the difference is, you made an informed decision. You obviously believed in the pluses of bm which is why you found other ways to give it to them. You had also bf for 3 months which is great and an achievement in itself. I think when you have come to the conclusion that you need to give your kid formula because it actually is the best thing to do in whatever your circumstance, then there shouldn't be any guilt because you know its what you need to do. I think perhaps the guilt comes from jumping on the bandwagon and not necessarily having their own reason for stopping......no idea if that makes sense. I see it with the vaccinating issue. People not vaccinating - not because they have researched it and decided thats what is best for their own kid, but not doing it because others around them don't - but they don't really understand why. They just quote the same reasons.
Thats why I think you really can only be happy with your choice, if you understand it. You can't feel guilty if you understand why you are ff or why bf didn't work for you.
i agree with that.