hi all,
My sister and i were pregnant with our first together and now we are pregnant with our second together.
With the 1st, it was difficult as they had been trying for 8 years, and we had been trying for 8 months, so i was relieved that she was pregnant and ours was a bit of a surprise! She told our parents when she was six weeks and then i did a test the following week because i was late and found that i was preggers too. We were 8 days apart in our due dates. She ended up being induced 2 weeks early and had a little girl and i went 2 weeks late and had a little boy so the cousins are about a month apart.
This time she took 8 months to fall pregnant and i took 2 months. it was a surprise for both of us. She is due on 10 march 2004 and i am due on the 16 march 2004. 6 days apart this time. they are already talking about inducing her early again so i don't know what the age gap will be this time.
Although it was ok having someone close to talk to about the pregnancy and stuff i can completley relate to the competition factor. she has always been someone who has to have the "better" thing and she is no different with her daughter. I don't know if it was because she was brought on early (for no medical reason, just had to be born first) or not, but her child seems to be physically behind my child with everything but teething. i don't push my son to do anything i believe that when he is ready he will do it, but as my son crawled first, she pushed her daughter to crawl, and then he walked first at 11 months and she couldn't be happy for me at all, she was only concerned that my son had "beaten" her daughter again and how that wasn't right because her daughter is a month older. her daughter didn't waslk until about 15 months, so it was hell. it gets very frustating. we can't visit as she just sits and tells me how she does everything differently with her kid and how her kid is doing this now and doing that. i get really excited for anyones baby when they reach a milestone, but she can't seem to be happy for anyone but herself.
We are actually hoping for opposites this time. i would like to have a girl and she would like to have a boy. so we'll see how that turns out as neither of us have found ou what we are having.
When it comes to grandmas, my parents have divorced recently and our dad doesn't see us or his grandkids as he is an idiot but my mum loves both the kids equally. sometimes i feel a bit guilty because my bro has two kids, both girls too and my mum always says that my son will always be the most special because he is the only boy grandchild so far and will be the eldest boy. he knows how to give people big hugs and kisses and when he ses his granny he always yells out NANA and runs up to get a cuddle. none of the other kids do that. she hasn;t spoilt him or anything because i odn't like that, he just loves his granny but my sister gets offended.
i don't know about it getting any easier, its been more and more difficult the older the kids get and they pregnancies are always compared. Although i have the bad pregnancies and she has the good ones. i tend to get a bit more sympathy from people who have been through it where she exaggerates every little symptom and just gets told, be lucky you don't have it like your sister.lol
This will be my last baby, however she is hoping to have four kids, so hopefully it eases up if they manage to fall pregnant again. I just hope we don't have an "accident" and fall pregnant at the same time again as that would just be too wierd.
Take care all