BIL is a drug addict, he gets everything he wants, he asks for money and they give in, all the time. Which is frustrating as DH has to beg for $10, and BIL gets $20-50 every day, even when he lived at home, same case. We had to ask to borrow money, we dont visit much and when we did FIL accused me of being money hungry and thats all I was after. Thats issue 2.
FIL is a very opinionated man. He frustrates everyone in his family, including all DHs aunty's and uncle's. He has told us what to do with our house, as we have recently built a new house. He has "told" us to do things, we have decided differently to him and he gets upset. Whilst we were away over Christmas holidays, DH and I decided that we want Agapanthus plants along one wall, we get back from holidays and they are everywhere, yes it is very nice to plant them, bun he should not have done it while we werent home and asked where we wanted them. Issue 3.
The last straw has been that FIL was recently at our house helping DH in the yard. Then he was hosing the cars. I told him to stop as there are water restricions and we have dirt, dirt+water=mud. HE stormed off and went home. This was about 2-3 weeks ago.
The problem is DH gets upset that Im not talking to FIL, but FIL is also not talking to me. Im think of doing a pros and cons about him and asking him to do the same about me so we can get some common ground and be civil to each other as it is starting to affect my relationship with DH in that after Dh sees his dad we have an arguement.
Opinions please, I need to sort something out and I probably will have to be the bigger person. Even if I dont want to.
I am not perfect, so thats why I think the list may work but not sure. I can argue but I like arguements, not no talking to people, especially people that are so close to DH.
Thanks in advance, Allison