My DF is Greek and his family were expecting a big fat Greek wedding. Neither of us wanted that!
We planned our wedding and reception out. We wanted less than 50 people (only very close family members and a few very close friends). We decided on an intimate cocktail reception on a river cruise:) We wanted simple, elegant, and unique. We spent months going through the fine details and ensuring it would be filled with personal touches.
THEN, DF and I were playing on the floor with our 20 month old and feeling the baby in my belly kicking up a storm and, we decided that all that mattered to us was right there in that room. We decided that we would elope with just us, our 2 children, and 2 witnesses. BUT, on our 5th wedding anniversary, we'll renew our vows with our family and friends and have the wedding and reception we had planned. That way, we'd have our own, private day to make things official and then we'd have a celebration further down the track when the children are old enough to get some enjoyment out of the day:)
I have 10 days until EDD with our 2nd child and we're planning to elope about 3 months after the arrival. We're going to get dressed up, get married in the park in town in front of this gorgeous fountain. We're going to have a photographer there and, to announce to our nearest and dearest that we tied the knot, we'll be sending them all a copy of one of the professional photos:)
I'm not saying that's what you should do. I just wanted you to know that you're not alone in that I don't enjoy being the centre of attention and being gawked at by hundreds of people. It's your day and you should enjoy the organising:) Don't stress! I have millions of ideas on how to organise a wedding easliy and still have all the special touches that make it stylish and amazing:) PM me if you want to pick my brain:)