If she's made the effort to purchase and courier gifts for your sons birthday then i really don't think she unwrapped and rewrapped them to specifically p!ss you off. Who knows what goes through the mind of an alcoholic? More than likely she's forgotten what was in there, unwrapped to check and rewrapped them badly.
She may not like you and you may not like her but in the end its the thought that counts and she was obviously thinking of her grandson. So either give the gifts to your son as is or wrap them properly either way no harm no foul. Oh, and don't forget to call and thank her, show that you're the better person. wink
you obviously don't know what she is capable of, there is 12 years of history that you are unaware of, so i don't know how you can say that she didn't do it to piss me of?
there was no "thought" behind these gifts, it is a form of manipulation. specifically so me or dh can ring and ask why the wrapping was ripped, which she will deny doing and them imediately ring every relative and cry and say that we swore to her and hold her off. she has done this many times before and i have played right into it but not this time.
to me it takes more that sending gifts (with mangled wrapping) to show that they are grandparents. you have to earn that right. they hardly ever made an effort to spend time with their grandkids and hardly ever called and when they did they didn't even ask about them.
she has 2 sons and they both have nothing to do with her and actually dispise her for how she raised them and what she did to them.
soooo nah, i won't be calling to thank them.
oh, and i don't need to show that i'm a better person than her just by not having them in my life makes me a better person wink
i know this might seem petty to some but after years and years of character assasiation, lies, betrayal, spitfulness and nastiness i've had enough. i was always the one to keep the peace, to turn the other cheek and to forgive and forget but i feel these people are like poison, toxic and even when i have nothing to do with them they still try to find a way to get to me, it frustrating.
The day i broke up with normal was the first day of my magical life...