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Am I selfish????????? Rss

Honestly I feel that you have given selfish reasons - not to mention think of the cost just so you can go see a film or get refills or your hair done. It'll cost the daycare fee PLUS whatever amount you've spent that day on yourself.

Posted by: jasmyn''''''''s mum
I dont have the advantage of leaving my daughters with my hubby on the w/e because he works in retail (which involves w/e's) and my family are all interstate


Surely he doesn't work 7 days a week - my hubby is in retail management and he gets what works out to be 2 days off a week. Can you schedule your nails in then?
Don't you have a pram that the baby can sit in while you get your nails done? Surely an 8mth old can't get into too much mischief in a pram.

I'd love to have the facilities of daycare - yep we have NO facilities in this town whatsoever, so my kids are looked after by their mum - me.

Hairdressers appts, doc appts, waxing appts, the lot, they come with me. Even to the bank when I need to see the manager - they bring their bag with snacks and toys and books, and are taught the art of patience.

These kids of mine are well rounded and adjust in any situation - they learn so much when we're out, they are interested in things, and ask questions.

Maybe I'm selfish though, for WANTING to take them with me rather than pay someone to look after them...
Hairdressers appts, doc appts, waxing appts, the lot, they come with me. Even to the bank when I need to see the manager - they bring their bag with snacks and toys and books, and are taught the art of patience.

These kids of mine are well rounded and adjust in any situation - they learn so much when we're out, they are interested in things, and ask questions.


I'd love to hear what questions they ask while you are getting a wax or at the Doc! tongue
What an education you are giving them! lol

My babies are all grown up sad

Just a quick question to the OP.

Have you thought about all the extra financial pressure this will put on your DH/DF/DP? I mean there will be Daycare fees, Hairdresser, nail technician, cinema and extra petrol costs aswell as snacks while out and anything else you decide to do on your 'day off'
Posted by: nome
Hairdressers appts, doc appts, waxing appts, the lot, they come with me. Even to the bank when I need to see the manager - they bring their bag with snacks and toys and books, and are taught the art of patience.

These kids of mine are well rounded and adjust in any situation - they learn so much when we're out, they are interested in things, and ask questions.


I'd love to hear what questions they ask while you are getting a wax or at the Doc! tongue
What an education you are giving them! lol


No questions that can't be answered- I leave the 'waxing' for when DD is at school and DS plays out in the shop rather than in the beauty room - an advantage of a small town with people you know in the shop!

And as for the doc, he loves seeing them, and generally gives them a lolly and has a basket of toys & books. They are quite occupied!! They are quite interested in what the doc does - but I generally leave the 'test' appointments for when my Mum can look after them - she takes 1/2 hr off work - or I organise it in her lunch hr.

DH works ultra long hours, so relying on him for those few times I need time alone at an appt is impossible.

When you've got to work with it, you just do it - otherwise you would achieve nothing.
To be honest I feel guilty when I do things during the week when DH is working. I feel like I shouldn't really do luxury things cause he can't why should I??

I am lucky enough to work from home so therefore I can look after the kids.

I don't agree with childcare unless it is so the parents can work or once the child becomes of age and needs some socialisation. My DD1 started going when she was three and it was classed as kindy, so she was learning things.

I don't think putting children in to do nails etc is a valid reason for using childcare. Its one of the sacrifices we make as parents.

My husband works in retail also - they aren't there all day for 7 days a week, so if he can't look after the kids so you can go get your nails done for an hour once a month then there are problems.

I leave my DH with all 4 of my kids including 5month old twins to do my stuff. If anyone needs childcare its me, I have 4kids - 4yo 2yo and 5month twins, I did this to myself and I am not using child care to get myself out of it.

8months is far to young in my opinion - unless you are going to work ofcourse.
[Edited on 24/06/2008]

How time flies!!

Posted by: Open_Sesame
8months is far to young in my opinion - unless you are going to work ofcourse.
[Edited on 24/06/2008]


I agree that 8 months is way too young for childcare... My DS is 4 and goes to childcare on the days I work from home..He is so bored when he does not go and I am not paying attention to him if I am working... They offered me 1 day a week for DD at the time she was 7 months and I turned it down I would rather work when she was napping and when she was having some quiet floor time. It is still managable to work from home and have the baby here too. I might start thinking differently when she can crawl or walk all over the house then that will be time to look at childcare but only because I work.....


Owen 26.2.04 and Hannah 17.9.07

my DS is 7.5 months, and I cant handle the thought of putting him in daycare, i felt bad enough leaving him with my mum for a couple of hours the other night, so that io could help out with a stocktake for extra cash. i dont like the thought of leaving him with strangers for the day when I cant explain to him that I will be coming back.
as a working mum (DH and I work opposite shifts so that one of us is always with him) i would give anything to have that extra time with him, but thats just me.
i dont really have much else to say, because reading your posts, I dont actually know why you would have bothered asking the question, since you seem to have already made up your mind.

~littleteapot~



Don't you have a pram that the baby can sit in while you get your nails done? Surely an 8mth old can't get into too much mischief in a pram.

I'd love to have the facilities of daycare - yep we have NO facilities in this town whatsoever, so my kids are looked after by their mum - me.

Hairdressers appts, doc appts, waxing appts, the lot, they come with me. Even to the bank when I need to see the manager - they bring their bag with snacks and toys and books, and are taught the art of patience.

These kids of mine are well rounded and adjust in any situation - they learn so much when we're out, they are interested in things, and ask questions.

Maybe I'm selfish though, for WANTING to take them with me rather than pay someone to look after them...


Totally agree smile

i havent read the replies to many but here my view

i believe daycare is fine for people that have to work and have no family to help them out but just because you want me time is really selfish.

i used to work in daycare and all i can say i could never put dd into care just because i want to go to a movie.

being a parent is 24/7 and thats just the way it is.

God.... If 8 months is too young then my poor little Annaliese!! She has been in daycare since she was 8 WEEKS!! Not by choice tho, as I needed to go back to work as we couldn't survive on 1 wage, and now there is only my wage so it was a good thing.

I desperatly wish I could spend every day at home with Annaliese, I know it would still be hard, and you would get just as tired if not more so... but god how I would love to be a stay at home mum and not have to put Annaliese in daycare.

She has been in daycare and around soo many differnt people for so long, that she will go to anyone now!

my son s 8months.. and i have just returned to work my mum is looking after him 5hrs a day.. and i tell ya its week 2 and im still crying daily.. i cant be without him.. i get my nails done when he's asleep "thursday nights" i get my hair cut done when i know hubby will be home.. i always work around things.. if i want to go to the movies with the girls or with hubby i wait until hes sleep and get the late session.. 8months is too young for childcare u dont know how they will treat your baby.. your baby doesnt have a voice to tell u if hes mistreated,,,

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