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This may sound incredibly stupid, but I'm wondering how other Mums make friends?

I have lived in this town for almost two years, so it's not like I'm new to town. I have made a few friends with DH's mates wives/partners, but they all have different lives to me. So really, I'm a loner. And I'm over it!

I took DD to a park yesterday, as I often do. While I was there, I saw a couple of women who were similar age to me, with kids similar age to mine and was so jealous that they had a friend to take their kids to the park with.

Am I weird for feeling jealous?

I don't really have anyone to whinge about anything to, or to talk about motherhood/life with. I think it'd be really nice to have a few friends for myself and my daughter.

So, how do I go about it? How do I make friends?

This may sound incredibly stupid, but I'm wondering how other Mums make friends?

I have lived in this town for almost two years, so it's not like I'm new to town. I have made a few friends with DH's mates wives/partners, but they all have different lives to me. So really, I'm a loner. And I'm over it!

I took DD to a park yesterday, as I often do. While I was there, I saw a couple of women who were similar age to me, with kids similar age to mine and was so jealous that they had a friend to take their kids to the park with.

Am I weird for feeling jealous?

I don't really have anyone to whinge about anything to, or to talk about motherhood/life with. I think it'd be really nice to have a few friends for myself and my daughter.

So, how do I go about it? How do I make friends?


Which town do you live in? I will be your friend!
smile You just made my day!

I live in Gladstone QLD.
lmao ditto to supaexcited!!

But nah what your feeling is normal. trust me I have been in this town for nearly 5 years and I haven't made ONE friend. Usually just mingle with DF"s mates in melb when we have the chance to get there but other than that haven't really felt the need to lol

Though it is hard when you have a child as you feel like you need to be friends with other mothers because you know that in a way you can connect with them smile

I heard that playgroups are a good idea, maybe see if you have one going local smile

omg and I used to live in gladstone smile pity I don't live there anymore otherwise yeah I would have most definately had a catch up grin

IF you ever need to talk etc feel free to send me a pm xxoo
Try putting a thing up in the communities section on here, I did and made a really good friend. I only recently moved here so she is my only friend lol!! And like pp said, try playgroups you can meet some really lovely people but you might have to try some different ones to find one that suits you smile and if we didnt live on opposite sides of the country I would have been you friend too lol laugh
I will be your friend tongue

I have tried the playgroups in our area and found it hard to fit in as the other mums already have their little clicks. as PP said, you may need to try a few until you find one where you fit in

Check out your local library, our library has rhymetime every week for mums with young kids. DD loves going and I have meet other mums with young kids that I am now friends with.

smile You just made my day!

I live in Gladstone QLD.


Oh bugger I live in NZ. Oh well, we will just have to be email pals smile

I had the same trouble with i lived in Melbourne. I found other mothers to be very clicky and snobby. But i found one lady who was nice enough and pretty much pestered her to come for coffee with my and now she is one of my best friends smile
If there a group that you can take your child too? Like music or a playgroup? Just strike up conversations with people. One will surely respond in kind smile
Oh honey - I'm sorry you're having a hard time making friends. Go to your maternal child and health nurse and ask them if there's anything on like playgroups or singing/nursery rhymes groups - something like that - also your local swimming pool would have swimming classes for your child, and you can meet mums there.
I met one of my very good friends at a swimming class with our two who were actually 1 day apart in age!
You just have to be a bit fearless and dive right in and say Hi, how are you...do you want to come over for a cuppa some time and our kids can play together?
I wish I was closer (I'm in Vic) or I'd have you over for a cuppa today!!!
Good luck.
Hey, email me at [email protected] if you ever feel the need to vent - I'm happy to have a new penpal!!
xo
OMG I'm totally the same lol

I am always jealous when I see a group of mums and their kids and I feel like my kids are deprived of friends sad
I've tried a playgroup and a mothers group but I'm shy around new people and I'm also a young mum and couldnt connect with anyone
So I just have to be happy with my kiddies and me.... smile

I've tried a playgroup and a mothers group but I'm shy around new people and I'm also a young mum and couldnt connect with anyone
So I just have to be happy with my kiddies and me.... smile


Haha that's the same with me <img src='https://www.huggies.com.au/forum/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/dry.gif' class='bbc_emoticon' alt='<_<' />
I am also a pretty shy person and have a circle of friends I have had since before any of us had kids, so we are pretty bonded for life LOL! In fact I still have a friend that I see regularly that I went to primary school and high school with, so I am pretty contented with my circle.

However.......I used to wonder what it would be like to just make some new friends that I dont have a long history with and we can just bond over kids as that is our mutual connection.
I ended up making some friends at DS and DD's swimming lessons, and I have also tried the local playgroup run by the church. As this playgroup has only been going a few months, there hasnt been the opportunity for people to become really "clicky". Kids really enjoy it and the mothers seem very nice so far.

I agree with the PP's, also try local play centres, libraries and even the early childhood centre may know of some playgroups you could try. I know it is hard, it is sooo much easier just to stay at home and not feel uncomfortable, but it is worth extending yourself a bit for.
If it doesnt work out, so be it, but at least you have tried.

Good luck, and for what it is worth, I'll be your friend on here! grin

His Royal Highness, Prince William

I will be your friend grin
One of my best friends is my own cousin lol
I found it hardnto make new friends when I had a baby as none of my friends had kids and our priorities were now very very different.
I also met new friends threw swimming classes too, I started to talk to girls I went to schoolnwith but never hung around with as they had kids now we are all close I have never had to move town and I no I would suffer making friends as I can be quite shy unsure
I have never been interested by play groups either as I no too they would be very clicky nothin worse then feeling like a outsider!!!
Chin up darl you'll meet some nice people a lot these mums always have great ideas on here and if you ever feel lonely jump on here and I'll talk to you I think swimming classes or the library would be a good idea what about your neighbor hood seen any kids?
I just made friends with my neighbor she doesn't have kids but she is a baby sitter lol
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