I hate, absolutely hate the idea that we as mothers have to be the bad cop while everyone else in the childs life gets to be the good cop. for the last few days my duaghter has constantly brought my stress level up to the point where I am almost on the verge of tears. I obviously though that she had stopped the naughty behaviour as for about a month this little girl could not be any better. However her behavior has got to the point where at times I have to wonder if she has become possessed by some evil spirit (not that i believe that people can be possessed).
So anyway while I have constantly expected my daughter to at least behave herself for those who look after her, she is just turned into the little devil that i have never seen before. I am not saying that she was a good girl up unlti this point, far from it, it's just that she has got that out of control that her father and grandmother (whom lives with us, it's a very long story) have decided that they get to be the good cops while i have no choice but to be the meanie in the house.
I mean if i was to say no to her (in fornt of them) for a chocolate or something she would turn around nad ask them. Yet instead of them siding with my decision they allow her to have the chocolate. Before they used to support this but now that the new baby is due in 5 weeks they let her get away with murder.
I wouldn't mind so much if it was just the occational slip up but this is constantly, esp with her grandmother. No matter how i have decided to "rear" this little monkey she tries to over step the boundries and be the one that give her everything while i stand there and fume over it. I don't like my daughter seeing me lose my temper as i know that if i was to completly lose it i could very well get out of control andsay things that she shouldn't hear.
But the worse thing about all this is that my partner just sits there and lets all this happen while i have to settle down. Last night i got to the point where i had to remove myself from the company that we had so i could relax, instead of everyone understanding this they constantly sent my little girl in to find out what was going on and if i was alright. this was after they had been told that i was too stressed to be civil to people and i was brought up to remove myself from the situation that was causing the problem.
Now i am getting the blame of my daughter being hyped up (though she hasn't had anything that would cause her to behave like this), yet they were the ones that gave her chocolate and sugared drinks lastnight while i calmed my self down!
I love my partner but if this is how it's going to be it may just cometo the point that i pack my daughter and the baby (if it is born by then) and myself and just leave. this is the one thing that i have promised him that i would never do but if it comes to the point that it's either living in this situation or my and the kids sanity i would have to leave.
Again sorry ladies for this being so long, and i truely appoligise if i have offended anyone with this post. I feel better now for getting this off my chest. I have no clue why i am thie emotional i just hope that it's not forever and once this baby is born i am back to my normal self. Wow this turned out to be an essay, oh well i know i can write them for uni now!!