I dont really know what to say about the help thing. My hubby is good sometimes and at others I could queit easily kick him.
But for your own sanity have a break
Mum to 5 amazing gifts from God. 3 girls 2 boys
maybe your partner just needs to build up his confidence abit, explain to him that the baby will never get used to him doing things if he is not consistent in helping out and also point out that he is missing out on valuable bonding time with his daughter.
Maybe you could get him to start bathing your baby, my partner has done this right from the start and they both enjoy it, also it might be hard but unless the baby is in danger try not to tell your partner how to do everything, we learn by muddling through and they need to as well, men hate feeling like they don't know how to do something so for most of them if they get criticised to much they will just give up and let you do it yourself your way.
Also maybe you could ease him into the nappy changing and just ask him to help you, pass you things etc hopefully if he watches you doing it he will feel more confident himself.
Hope some of these suggestions help.
mum to two gorgeous guys
Jo, WA, 3 Great Boys, 7rs, 21mo, 6mo
My partner was exactly the same, I'm not saying that he is perfect now, we still have our moments where he will try to get out of it and this is 2 kids later, he has come a long way for someone that has never been around kids and also being an only child. You just have to be firm with him and consistent for your own sanity. The golden rule and I've only just found this out now.....lol....is to be kind to yourself and look after yourself, so get onto him, I understand if he has his issues but come on you are new to this too....there is just no excuse not to help. You have a lovely week and I hope that all works out for you, bubba and your hubby. Dont be so hard on yourself, you are a fantastic mum and you are doing a great job, don't ever feel guilty about how you are feeling, we all feel this way from time to time. You just take care of yourself and keep positive.
Gem - TWO MOLARS AT ONCE......... AHHHHHHHHHHHHH
I read this tip somewhere ages ago and works wonderfully on my hubby...
If you want your partner to do something, you first compliment and thank him on something he did and then ask him to do something else...
Eg. "Honey, thank you for taking out the rubbish earlier, I really appreciated it...(while he's feeling chuffed with himself)... Honey, could you help me with the dishes please? It would really help me a lot,' I am amazed how well this works with my hubby and my brother in law...
I know, sounds like a suck job, but a lot of men NEED to feel appreciated and like Heroes...women just seem to sigh and get on with it regardless of whether we are thanked or not. Bit like men are ALWAYS sicker when they get the cold that you had!
Jade, QLD, DS Sept 04, #2 due 06/08/07