I have 12 week old twin girls and a 3 year old daughter, I'm so glad I found this forum as the help available for single babies sometimes doesn't fit a twin (or more) family! As you are all no doubt aware. Kristi, congratulations on your twin news; and I'm with Vicki - no two births are the same so don't think you will have the same experience again. I wanted a completely drug & intervention free birth with my eldest daughter, and ended up having Peth. & ventouse; with the other two I wanted every drug they could legally give me but they came so quickly I had absolutley diddly squat! I birthed them both vaginally as well but that was more credit due to my midwife I think, who just refused to let me give up. My second twin was a breech and didn't turn and my Ob. was so itching to do a Ceasar, and by then I just didn't care, but the midwife overuled us both and kept talking me through the whole birth until out came little Megan , bruised and battered but very robust and healthy. So my advice is, keep the Ceasar option very open because in reality with twins it is more likely to happen, but on the other hand try to choose a good hospital with really good midwives! I know - easier said than done. I think I was just lucky, really.
As far as your little boy goes, I found it helpful to think of it this way: he would react whether you brought home one baby or two. He doesn't know that having two brand new baby brothers/sisters is not normal, so he's not going to feel especially hard done by just because there's two of them. His jealously will be the same as if there was only one. Pretend that two babies is normal and try to spend some time with him on his own every day (I read this bit in a book but haven't managed it yet myself - about twice a week, on a good week, is the only quality 1 on 1 time I have managed with my eldest so far! But when I do manage it I find she really responds well)
This is turning into a long post and I just wanted to say hello!
Take care everyone,