my best friend from school had a boy 2 weeks before turning 15 ..she actually lost her virginity with this man (he was 24) cause her mum siad to her she has to do it some time ( she expressed concern to her mum cause she was sexually abused by her brother who then went and shot himself when he was found out ...)so her upbringing was no yard stick ..she really was starting from scratch with this boy and she was just a girl herslef ...she then had another girl when she was 20 or so ...she then left this dead shit for good ...
I wont go into the mental abuse that this man did to my friend ..lets just say 10 years later she is still dealing with it ..she has gotten on with ehr life dont get me wrong ...but she still has a few scars that are difficult to heal !!
so ...since the day this boy was born he was trouble ..he was voilent even as a toddler ...and now he is nearly 14 ...he is still violent and he is also bigger then my freind ..he has threatened to kill his sister with a blade she later found in his cupboard ..so she called the cops .they came and apparently she was very pleased witht he responce she got from them !! they took her and the situation seriously ...and they issued him with a warnign ...but ..a week later he was found agai with a knife at school !!
so this boy has been wanting to live with his father since he was 6 ...but he is a horrible influance and she has resisted all these years ..that and the fact that the father doest want the responsibility !! ......fast forward a few years ...she is tierd ..she is sick of fighting and she has run out of ideas ...so she has arranged for him to go and live with his dad ..his dad borked at the idea but my friend is at her witts end so she told him if he dosent take him she is going to have to put him in foster ...she cant protect her daughter ..I know this sounds like she is playing favorites ...but I will now list the things my frined has done to try and help !!
psycologists
counclellors (religosu and non religous )
meditation
martial arts (I know this one sounds far out ..but she thought that the positive male role model and the disipline would help ..and it did ...if only a fraction )
hypnptherapy
meditation
child yoga
adopt a big brother programe
adopt a grandparent programe
belting the living crap out of him
she has done the ppp parenting programe
so it is not like he became difficult and she is just trowing int he towel ....letting him go to his fathers lace is the only thing she hasnt tried ...
so ......has anyone got any other suggestions ...she doesnt want him to go to his dads ...but she is out of options ...she has fought for so long and she is feeling like it was all for nothing now ..she has lost relationships and friends cause of this boy and now to just elt him go seems to her like it was all for nothing !!
anyone ...she is honestly desparate !
I wont go into the mental abuse that this man did to my friend ..lets just say 10 years later she is still dealing with it ..she has gotten on with ehr life dont get me wrong ...but she still has a few scars that are difficult to heal !!
so ...since the day this boy was born he was trouble ..he was voilent even as a toddler ...and now he is nearly 14 ...he is still violent and he is also bigger then my freind ..he has threatened to kill his sister with a blade she later found in his cupboard ..so she called the cops .they came and apparently she was very pleased witht he responce she got from them !! they took her and the situation seriously ...and they issued him with a warnign ...but ..a week later he was found agai with a knife at school !!
so this boy has been wanting to live with his father since he was 6 ...but he is a horrible influance and she has resisted all these years ..that and the fact that the father doest want the responsibility !! ......fast forward a few years ...she is tierd ..she is sick of fighting and she has run out of ideas ...so she has arranged for him to go and live with his dad ..his dad borked at the idea but my friend is at her witts end so she told him if he dosent take him she is going to have to put him in foster ...she cant protect her daughter ..I know this sounds like she is playing favorites ...but I will now list the things my frined has done to try and help !!
psycologists
counclellors (religosu and non religous )
meditation
martial arts (I know this one sounds far out ..but she thought that the positive male role model and the disipline would help ..and it did ...if only a fraction )
hypnptherapy
meditation
child yoga
adopt a big brother programe
adopt a grandparent programe
belting the living crap out of him
she has done the ppp parenting programe
so it is not like he became difficult and she is just trowing int he towel ....letting him go to his fathers lace is the only thing she hasnt tried ...
so ......has anyone got any other suggestions ...she doesnt want him to go to his dads ...but she is out of options ...she has fought for so long and she is feeling like it was all for nothing now ..she has lost relationships and friends cause of this boy and now to just elt him go seems to her like it was all for nothing !!
anyone ...she is honestly desparate !