After 13 yrs of lots of emotional abuse and feeling trapped i have made the decision that its best for me and my kids, 3.5 & 6.5 to leave. I know my hubby wont take it at all well as his first marriage ended 17yrs ago but he's still carrying around so much emotional baggage and i cant deal with it anymore. We tried counciling 7yrs ago and have come around to the same mistrust issues again. I cant do this anymore and i know my kids and i will be better off leaving. I just dont know how or where to go as cant really lob on family doorstep and i know hubby wont leave the house. Any advice would be greatly appreciated