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Thank you both for your replies... Katrina, the way you are explaining it is almost exactly the same as i feel without the added stress of a little one in spica cast (although my added stress could be full time university!).

I just don't know iff what im feeling is legitimate or if im over re-acting...


This thread has got me really thinking about the way I've been feeling and acting lately. I was reading it earlir in tears cos some of the things decscribed are exactly like it is around here.

I think the fact we are doubting whether it's legit or not should be reason enough to get it checked out. I too have been thinking what if it's just a reacion to my situation atm (eg really strapped for cash & can't get a job to "help it") but deep down I know I need help. Now to work up the courage to get it ...

You have described me exactly. I just have always put it down to dh rarely being at home and not having any support therefore making me feel overwelmed (sp). Maybe there is more to it??? All i know is everyday is a struggle not necessarily emotionally, hard to explain but i feel like i am just not cut out to be a parent. I think surely not everyone finds being a mum this hard???
i just want to thank you for starting this thread.

I have been feeling very overwhelmed for a while now and just had trouble getting it out. I am so frustrated at the kids and my DH....and there isnt really a reason why...

i havent wanted to get close to my husband...the housework is piling up...

i am getting plenty of sleep but still feel tired all the time - i feel like i am alone all the time and have nobody. I constantly worry something is going to happen to my family and have dreams of them dying or being taken away..

I was putting it all down to DD3 having issues (which are still up in the air)...you have given me something to think about and i think i too should speak to my GP about it...

wishing you ladies all the best..

This thread has got me really thinking about the way I've been feeling and acting lately. I was reading it earlir in tears cos some of the things decscribed are exactly like it is around here.

I think the fact we are doubting whether it's legit or not should be reason enough to get it checked out. I too have been thinking what if it's just a reacion to my situation atm (eg really strapped for cash & can't get a job to "help it") but deep down I know I need help. Now to work up the courage to get it ...


It was a discussion with some other online friends whom i've been in contact with for about 3 years that got me thinking Teresa... i am thinking along the same lines as you ))HUGS((


You have described me exactly. I just have always put it down to dh rarely being at home and not having any support therefore making me feel overwelmed (sp). Maybe there is more to it??? All i know is everyday is a struggle not necessarily emotionally, hard to explain but i feel like i am just not cut out to be a parent. I think surely not everyone finds being a mum this hard???




i just want to thank you for starting this thread.

I have been feeling very overwhelmed for a while now and just had trouble getting it out. I am so frustrated at the kids and my DH....and there isnt really a reason why...

i havent wanted to get close to my husband...the housework is piling up...

i am getting plenty of sleep but still feel tired all the time - i feel like i am alone all the time and have nobody. I constantly worry something is going to happen to my family and have dreams of them dying or being taken away..

I was putting it all down to DD3 having issues (which are still up in the air)...you have given me something to think about and i think i too should speak to my GP about it...

wishing you ladies all the best..


No need to thank me - i was just after some confirmation as to whether my feelings were 'real' or whether i was worrying over nothing. In a strange way it is 'comforting' to know there are others out there i can talk with - so thank you ))HUGS((

I think I lack a decent sleep that my behaviour can be mistaken for PND. Lack of sleep & money worries & the fact that my partner works away and soon to return to work have been major factors. I have had to keep reminding myself that its not so bad. I've had a cry here & there but nothing like what some of the previous bloggers describe.

However as much as I love my little bundle I really struggle with her constant grizzling and not being able to satisfy her sometimes gets me so frustrated I find I grit my teeth & just wonder why I had a baby. After talking to other mums about this it seems Im not alone. I felt guilty getting angry with my DD. Its not her fault and if she could talk im sure she would tell me whats wrong. At times feeling like Im failing as a mum. Im also finding I need reassurance from other mums that Im doing ok and that what I feel sometimes is normal. And to hang in there. Which I'm doing. And I am also talking to my support people when I need to.

AM NO LONGER TINKERING WITH THE TICKER HMPH!

Sounds like there are a lot of us in the same boat. This was me, up until a month ago really. The difference for me was finding the right dose of medication and finding a gem of a counceller to talk too.

To be honest i found that my bad days far out numbered my good days. I was unmotivated, would snap over the smallest things, i yelled way too much. If i could have just stayed in bed and hid then i would have.

There is a light at the end of the tunnel though. Just dont be afraid to ask for help if you need it. The hardest part of all of it for me was just sitting in the Doctors office sobbing, because i just didnt know how to change any of it. But from there it just got a little easier each time.

I'm here if you need me smile

Reading some of these posts has made me realise that i need to talk to my GP.... Ive gotten a hell of a lot better in the past year, but whenever someone would ask me if i was coping i would have to hold back the tears. I placated myself with 'it's just a little baby blues, everyone goes through it'.

When DD was born i resented my DH so much there were days i wondered if i stayed because i was too tired to pack my bags. Now im pregnant with DD2 i am terrified of falling back into that pattern im only just getting out of. I am already flying off the handle at the most ridiculous things, DD spilling her toys (even though i knew she would), DD grabbing at me constantly and not 'leaving me alone'. I mean....logically i know that's just ridiculous, i love her, i dont want her to leave me alone!! But she grabs for my armpits and i just lose it.
Hi guys,

GET ON THE DRUGS!

Ha ha!

Seriously though I've been where you are, as not just me but others view me as 'strong & unemotional'.

I've never resented my child, I love him more then life itself, and we are as bonded as any two people could possibly be.

There are many many kinds of depression, and it's impossible to diagnose over a forum, but please all of you wondering, see a GP.

But when you do see a GP ensure it's one trained in mental health issues. I found my GP by going to the beyondblue website and searching for doctors who had undertaken the additional training in mental health.

I delayed for a very long time & got worse.

What eventually helped me, was imagining if my child was in the same situation. I realised that I wanted to show my son that if you are ever in the slightest doubt about how you are feeling you reach out & seek help. I wanted to demonstrate to him that is okay to ask for help and rather then a weak thing, it's actually a very brave thing to do.

Make sure you see a decent GP and they should do a questionnaire and advise you from there.

Personally I think a combination of drugs & therapy is the best. Therapy for me is sometimes weekly or 3 monthly, and it SO GOOD to vent to someone, it's not lying on the couch analysing your freudian childhood!

YOU ARE NOT ALONE. IT OFTEN HAPPENS TO PERFECTIONISTS "CAPABLE" RESPONSIBLE PEOPLE. PM IF YOU NEED TO.

XO
Thanks for starting this thread smile I know I have PND depression and like a PP said its nice to know there are others out there who feel the same way as we do.

I have days where im on top of the world than in a split second I feel like im in the biggest darkest hole and I just cant seem to find my way out. Like today my morning was fantastic going to the gym and getting some fresh air than 6pm tonight somethig snapped in my brain and I just couldnt not stop sobbing, I couldnt handle my own kids (btw they werent doing anything) so I put them in the car and drove for an hour and a half so they could keep quite. Than I parked in a car park and cried. Now thats not normal.

My husband pi$$es me off (he doesnt do anything) but just looking at him makes me angry sometimes. I yell at DS1 when I dont need to and makes me feel like $hit! I have already seen a GP and am trying to find a psychiatrist. It hastn been easy trying to find help as im hitting brick walls where ever I go. Sometimes I really feel sorry for our kids that they have me as a mother.

I really hope we can all get past how we are feeling but the only way to that is to get help. Like another PP said get on to the beyondblue website type in your postcode and it will send you to your nearest GP who is speacialised in mental health.

Anyway enough blabber and hope today will be a better day than yesterday smile

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