Sorry this ended up being a really long post.
We were having problems with our son when he was 18mths old so we all went on an elimination diet with the help of a dietician. This was about 2.5 yrs ago now. I know that Amines affect both DS and myself. I get reflux from them and he has behavioural issues (almost ADD). So our DR suggested trying them first.
DD is much more settled and now sleeps from 8/8.30 through to between 4 and 6 am. She still needs to be carried all day, but I just pop her in a sling and she's fine. I am also now absolutely certain that her problem is my diet as yesterday I had a hotdog and some chocolate (very high in amines) and I couldn't get her to sleep till after 10 last night, she then woke up crying in pain at 1 and again at 4.
With intolerances it isn't about how well you eat it is more about the natural chemicals present in all food. A good book to read is "Fed up" by Sue Dengate, you should be able to borrow it from the library, otherwise most bookshops have it and I have even seen it in Big W sometimes. She has a website: www.fedupwithfoodadditives.info which has some really good info and she also tours around Aus giving talks (there are some in Vic and NSW soon). I also have a little booklet which lists foods with amines, salicylates and glutamates, I could try scanning it and email it to you if you want.
However, as you are breastfeeding you really need to see a dietician to do the diet properly as it is very restrictive and there is a chance that it could affect your supply.
With night time sleeping, I ended up bringing DD into our bed but I was always afraid that DH would roll on her. My CHN suggested putting the cot beside our bed with the rail off and jammed against the wall. DD has her own space but I can just reach over to cuddle her or bring her into our bed for a quick feed and back into the cot after.
We did that for a few weeks but now that she is sleeping really well we have the rail on and I have a gap of about 6 inches between the cot and the bed so I can easily get out but I can still reach her during the night to help resettle her if she needs it.
I have also been told that reflux bubs want to suck, suck, suck to feel better, but putting more milk in hurts them more, so they love having a dummy. So if you are not against them, you might want to try one. DD just gags on them so I sometimes give her my finger to suck instead. DS also had reflux and loved his dummy.
Let me know if you want any more info.
Mum to Angus (4) & Abby (Aug 07)