You are all snuggly and warm in a floating oasis, with singing and rocking and you're never hungry because you are always fed. Now imagine that you are forced out of this happy place by brute force (or in some cases cut out) and find yourself in a bright, loud place where no one is rocking you, you feel things like discomfort and pain and hunger and you are put to bed with the expectation that you will fall asleep on your own with no rocking or singing and NO ability to control their emotions of settle themselves.
The first place is the womb, the second place is life outside the womb. For your baby the world is a very scary place and all they know is that they want to feel like they did when they were in the womb. How do they achieve that? They cry so that mum (or dad) comes and picks them up, feeds them, holds them close, rocks and/or sings to them etc. This is what they expect because they can't do any of that stuff for themselves yet nor IMO should they be expected to.
They have little tummies that require feeding little and often and as the PP mentioned the first 6-8 weeks of establishing a milk supply is basically one GIANT growth spurt. [url=http://www.kellymom.com/bf/normal/newborn-nursi...
] explains what you can expect in those first 6ish weeks. Common growth spurt times in the early weeks are the first few days at home, 7 - 10 days, 2 - 3 weeks and 4 - 6 weeks.
So to answer your question she wants YOU....she doesn't care if you are feeding her or not, she just wants someone to be with her and I think is easy to forget that she is in fact helpless. The following things are some of what we did in the early days/weeks (and we had a 4 year old to cope with as well):
[item]We had DS2 in our bed. He was there full-time for about 8 weeks, part-time from weeks 8-16 and then full-time again during his 4 month growth spurt. had we not done that, no one would have gotten any sleep
[/item][item]I fed to his cues and allowed comfort feeding. I had real issues bf DS1 and was determined not to make the same mistakes again.
[/item][item]I ignored ALL the housework and spent most of my time on the sofa or in bed. If someone offered to help, I took it.
[/item][item]DP and I slept in shifts for a while (though this might not be that easy for you if DP works away for example). So he'd go to bed early and get some sleep, then I would feed DS2 at around 11ish and then DP would get up with him and would only bring him to me to feed.
[/item][item]I carried DS2 in a frontpack so that if I had stuff that I just had to do, I had hands free to do it but he was still close to me.
[/item][item]We slept him on his tummy. Now alot of people aren't comfortable with this but we found that he'd do a couple of hours if put down on his tummy and only 20 minutes if put on his back. He'd then get very overtired and he'd be harder to settle.
[/item][item]He was fed/rocked to sleep for 5.5ish months when he decided that he didn't need to do that any more to get to sleep.
So basically we did what we needed to do to get through each day. Days were predictable, but no two were ever the same. Have you got friends and/or family nearby that can help?[/item]