Wow I just read the entire thread, and I have to say - it was very entertaining. Its good that everyone is so passionate about being a good mum. Although there were lots of extreme differences of opinions, all the mums were voicing an opinion they thought was best for baby. What I didn't like was the individual attacks on mums who were trying to be helpful. A lot of you have helped me, even if it was just to cheer me up. I didn't appreciate jm being criticised as she has helped me a lot. I have often asked for advice but in the end I make up my own mind.
There are many topics that are debatable. Breast or bottle? cloth or disposable? controll crying or not etc.. we need to remember that one rule doesn't apply to all. I think sometimes what's best for the baby is to put mum's needs first. So she's mostly alert and happy to take care of baby. If this means a long bubble bath, champagne, a long sleep while hubby gives bub formula, or walking away for a few minutes then so be it! Its like that term "sharpen the saw", we need to stop and sharpen the saw so that we can chop trees more effectively.
I know you all already know this, but we still get strong opinions from people who think their way of doing things is the best way.
I hope that no one leaves. That would be really sad. You may remember a thread where a mum was crucified for saying that she leaves her baby to cry for 1&1/2 hours and wears ear plugs. She copped so much for saying that. People accused her of child abuse. That was her last post. I clicked on her name and read her other posts to discover she didn't have any family support or friends and her baby was 2years old. And now, she's completely on her own or gone to another site, but I think its so important to stay positive because we all enjoy coming here and we need eachother whether we like to admit it or not.