Yes,I did read your post properly and maybe if you had left the 'like i was' part out,I would not have misinterpreted what was written.
I am sorry you had such a terrible time with the whole issue and glad all is going well now.
Julie~mum to Jordyn-12,Jai-9,Eli-5,Kayne-10months!
You have a great attitude. Having 3 boys under 3 (under 4 now...this message was posted nearly 12 months ago) would be a challenge as it is (I have 2 boys under 2) let alone breastfeeding at the same time. You need to have your body back sometime.
Im ZacsMum and have a 4 week old baby.
Breastfeeding started off really well but the last week it has become frustrating cause bub wont latch on properly and most times pulls off after a minute or so, and the night feeds aree really frustrating due to sleep deprivation and lastly both of my wrists ache from supporting his head at the breast.
It appears as though i dont have enough milk for him.
I express after most feeds to help boost my supply.
Do you have any tips for me
2 Under 1
I have twin boys - nearly 2 months, and I can relate to what you say, the only thing I could say to you is just keep trying and keep thinking about our baby - breastfeeding is hard (I have wanted to give up so many times) but it gets easier each time you feed your baby. The less you stress the more you and your baby will enjoy the time. If you find that your baby is still not latching try taking him away from the breast and "talking" to him, as for the night feeds just think one day he will sleep right through (One of my twins slept right though at 5 wks) and then you miss those quite times in the middle of the night.
To everyone else who has written, you are all right - breastfeeding is a great thing but some people are unable to breastfeed for whatever reason, as long as they have tried then they should not feel guilty about bottlefeeding their baby, when my babies were born I had to breastfeed and then top up with bottle, because I had a C-Section and then I was stressed as things hadn't happened as I had wanted then to my milk took a while to come in, I kept at it and with encouragement from friends and family I now have two healthy, full breastfeed twin boys - and I love each feed as it is just about the only time I get to have quite one on one time to gaze into each babies eyes and tell them how much I love them!
Whatever you choose to do as long as your baby is healthy that is all that matters!
mum of 3 boys aged 11, 13 and 14
I think you will find that most mums want the best for their bubs and will give breastfeeding a go. Some women just can't do it though and I feel so sorry for those put on a guilt trip for not doing so. I know one girl who just didn't have any milk even two weeks after the labour and the midwife was pretty much telling her she was a horrible mother if she dare put a bottle to her bub's mouth. This poor girl was in tears already feeling bad about not being able to breastfeed but to have that said to her, I thought was just horrible. As long as baby is fed and well looked after I don't think anyone should judge any mother or her choices
Ryan (2) & Jayden (18mths)
It was really nice to see my m/w the other day, who hasnt been the best but seems to be much better now, she made a comment about one of her patients being pushed into breastfeeding in hospital & how its our choice & we shouldn't be pushed into b/f, especially considering many are feeling very delicate after giving birth.
On the note that if I could I would, I also wonder what the real advantages are as I was breastfed by my mother & have eczema, hayfever & allergies to several different things, then I consider my brother, who was also breastfed and was always sick with ear infections and colds as a toddler, yet breastmilk is ment to help because of mothers immunity being passed through in the milk etc.
Good luck to all & the choices they make, either way it cant be easy breastfeeding, and we also know the negative view that is being placed on bottlefeeding.
Arna & Paije (29/09/04)
i got mastitis in the 1st week and he wasnt latched on properly. I got very sick just with a "flu" and a bit of nipple cracking and pain but other than that nothing bad has happened. I hope it doesnt as I plan to feed for at least 6 months and go back to casual work in 2. I feel happy i persevered and kept going through the mastitis as I have laways dreamt I would b/f. As I needed a emerg. c-sec, i didnt get to experiance natural birth so im glad it all worked out.
mum to bayden 25/02/05
Sorry, but if women couldn't breastfeed, how did the human race survive this long. Breastfed babies have a lower risk of diabetes, excema, asthma, heart and lung disease and numerous other diseases. Not to mention mothers who breastfeed their babies are at lower risk aswell. Mothers are also at lower risk of developing breast and ovarian cancers.
It really annoys me when people have a hard time breastfeeding one baby and then don't even try with the next. Remember all babies are different. Your brand new baby has never done this before either and needs to learn how to do it properly, just like you. Some mothers are shown how to do it wrong and babies develop bad attaching habits as a result.
Women go through mastites, thrush, engorgement, milk fever etc. It makes you wonder why mother nature made something soo natural as breastfeeding soo difficult to establish. Some people have an easy time with no problems and feed for 12 months or more. I went through all of these problems but was soo determined to breastfeed that I stuck with it and now 8 weeks on, its wonderful.
The reason women feel guilty about giving up breastfeeding is because it your gut concience telling you that what you are doing is wrong, and that you should be sticking with it. Its for you babies sake.
Some mothers complain that they couldn't handle the 2 hourly feeds, the painful feeding, the time it takes to feed a baby. Well this is a wake up call, what did you expect when you fell pregnant. This is what happens when you have a baby. Newborn babies arn't supposed to go anymore than 2 hours between feeds. Just because your baby wont last 3 hours doesn't mean that you milk is "no good".
There is NO SUCH THING as breastmilk thats "not good enough"
No doubt like Jordy i'll cop a few angry comebacks, but just think about it for a sec. Breast feeding is 'supply by demand' the more you feed, the more you make. When you start supplementing with bottles, is when your supply will start to drop. You loose your supply BECAUSE you are supplementing, not the other way around.
For heavens sake, women who adopt can breastfeed. They just attach the baby to the breast while feeding milk through a tube. Eventually the women starts to make milk. So surely if a women who hasn't been through labour can produce milk, a mother who has, must definatly be able to.
Just to let you all know, once you have stopped breastfeeding, your body will continue to produce milk for 3 months afterwards. You can put a baby on a bottle for a few months and then go back to the breast. So come on.... this is mother natures way of telling you, women are supposed to feed their babies.
Breast is best!!!
Laneisa, QLD, 5 kids + baby Flynn 24/02/05
Mothers have a responsibility and owe it to their babies to breastfeed, or at least make a damn good effort at it.
When I had my son (8 weeks ago) I caught my Mother In Law feeding him a bottle of water while I was asleep in the hospital. I was soo angry that she thought she had the right to do it without my permission. It completley screwed up all intentions I had of EXCLUSIVLEY breastfeeding. I'm still angry with her to this day. My hubby cant see what the big deal is and defends her which makes it worse. I will never leave him with her. I just cant trust her not to try something like this again.
Laneisa, QLD, 5 kids + baby Flynn 24/02/05