I can't believe how much pressure is placed on mums these days!!
Let me assure you that your child will not suffer if he/she is not fed on demand. Some mums would have you believe that you are starving your child if you do not feed at the precise minute they begin to cry for it.
I went with the flow for the first four weeks but found that my baby wouldn't settle and was often upset. I had major problems with breastfeeding and didn't know what to do. I also had no idea how many feeds, how much sleep and how much awake time a baby needs. I decided to try Tizzie Hall's routine at five weeks of age and haven't looked back. From that first day I had a settled baby who slept through the night (7am to 7pm with a dreamfeed at 10pm). My breastfeeding problems virtually disappeared and my baby rarely cried.
Now my baby is almost 9 months old, still breastfed and still sleeping through the night. He has a huge appetite and now has 3 solid meals as well as the four beastfeeds. He is a very happy, settled child who doesn't need to cry if he's hungry because he knows when his next meal is coming.
I know some mums completely disagree with routine feeding but you really need to do what is best for you. Routines can be challenging in the beginning and may not work if you don't follow them exactly for the first few weeks. If you can get past that you will be able to deviate from the routine when you need to. My little guy does not eat and sleep at the exact same time each day, it's just a guide now.
Great idea starting the research early - wish I had! Good luck with any decision you make - just try not to let other people's opinions sway you about what you SHOULD be doing. Do what's right for yourself and your baby!!
It isn't about people thinking you starve your kid if you don't feed them the second they cry..... demand feeding for the first few weeks is about establishing breastfeeding, after that it is about letting your baby have control over their own food and their own needs.
My babies rarely cried for food.They made little noises that meant they wanted food, they only cried if that need was not met such as if we were in a car, or I was in the shower. At 9 months old I would hope that babies weren't crying for it! My eldest dd could sign that she wanted milk by that age and my second could certainly indicate she was hungry without tears!
Routines are fine if it works for your family, but to implement them for a newborn and even an older bf baby (and a lot of the routines from "baby gurus" are responsible for this) are at the demise of breastfeeding. bf is not designed to be done by routine,it is designed to be done on demand. thats why animals don't need clocks. wink