Thanks for all the suggestions.
We used family names for the middlenames of our other two children, and i'd like to do it again, Aunty Anna, but theres only one choice in hubby's eyes.
The some other names left are,
Lee (hubby won't have because its his ex's name)
Lillian ( which I love and hubby hates)
Minavera (not sure on spelling)
Hubby doesn't like any of the above.... but the one he does like is Hannah.
I've chosen Jessica for a name, because Jesse Jackson was the first descendant of my mums family tree to come to Australia 100+ years ago. He and he's siblings were abandoned by his mother so she could remarry, so his grandparnets raised him, til he was married and brought his wife and baby (born on the trip) to Australia. The name to me symbolises strength of spirit, to overcome any hardship. Sorry for the long story...I love history, and Jesse's life story reads like a good book.
OK now my reason for not wanting Hannah is because that was Jesse's mother's name, also his sister's and his grandmother's who raised him. But he refused to carry on the name because of his mother (who he detested)and none of his direct descendants have since. I'm afraid its disrespectful to his memory to call our future daughter(if we have one) Jessica Hannah. Yes I know he's long dead and will never know, but theres just an uneasy feeling to it.
She'll be called Jessie, Jessica will just be her formal name. So more middle names ideas would be great...