It's been forever (seems like anyway) since DS2 was born, but from all the research I did I would much rather tear than have an episiotomy. I got threatened with one when I was having DS1 and he was out less than 5 minutes later because I wanted to avoid one at all costs.
Not sure if it will help, but this might make for interesting reading.
However I healed up really well within a few weeks and that area did eventually go back to pre-pregnancy condition (it did take a while)
I have heard it is better to tear if you don't NEED an episiotomy for any particular reason.
I would talk to your ob and see what their opinion is!!!!
All the best with your birth
My thougths are, so long as bubs come out OK, you'll eventually heal, either way.
Hope it all goes well.
I can't compare tears with episiotomies because I've never had an epi - but I have been unlucky enough to end up with not one, but TWO third degree tears!!
I guess with a tear, there is always the chance that you may only have a first or second degree tear.
I am fortunate enough that my tears have healed reasonably well, but in saying that I would never have another vaginal birth. I don't think my perineum would cope!!
Joanne, WA, DD 22.05.06 & DS 04.10.07
I had an epi with my son (first baby) after 1.5 hrs of pushing. My son was trying to get his hand out as well as his head!!
Needed a couple of stitches and it stung for a few weeks after.
Second time round i pushed my DD out in 20 mintues with a small 1st degree tear (didn't even feel it). Had three stitches and they never bothered me.
In hindsighted if i had pushed on my son the way i did with my daughter i probably won't have needed the epi. But then thats how you learn isn't it smile
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I wouldn't have wanted an episiotomy I knew the chances were I'd tear as he was big and it's all natural.
Either way the stitches dissolve, the pain goes away and you go about being normal again after a couple of weeks smile