Hey hon i can totally relate to being scared of the unexpected but honestly the pain isnt normal kind of pain its a different pain,cant explain it until you experience it yourself but i think if you dont tense up and panic and stay relaxed it is alot more bearable,just listen to yoru midwives smile
With DD my waters broke with Meconium in it and i wasnt having any contractions so they decided to give me the sintocin to speed up/bring on the contractions (try to stay away form it,lethal stuff,doesnt allow your body to have a natural build up so you are just hit with intence contractions from the start) after 10hrs drug free and only being 3cm dialated i was exsausted & having soem really bad back pain along with the contractions so decided to try the pethadine to get soem sleep as bubs was still awhile off (for me another bad mistake,the peth only took teh edge of the pain and made me sick,dizzy felt like crap and put bubs in distress,her heart rate started dropping with each contraction down to 42bpm then racing inbetween contractiosn to 210+BPM)
was checked again and i still wanst progressing much so it was decided since bubs was in distress to go for an emergency c-section, room filled with staff to prepare me for thearte,annethitist came in and gave me Epidural (BESTEST RELIEF! also i think teh epi relaxed my body enough for her to make her way out) and just as we were leaving the birthing suite to go down to thearte i said i felt funny like i needed to go toilet (preasure in my bum) the MW checked and DD's head was crowning! 20mins earlier i was only 5cm dialated!!! gasp So fortunatley for me i didnt require an emergency C-sec as DD decided to make an entry grin i had an assisted delivery with Vaccume suction and required an Episiotomy, it took around 3weeks to heal but isnt even noticable really. Mia weighed 7lb 2oz was such a tiny little dolly hehe
DS birth was completely different! Contractiosn started very mildly Tuesday afternoon around 2pm,werent even really noticable and very irregular.
8pm i went to hospital,still very bearable jsut like period pain by this stage i guess,was 3cm dialated so decided to come home smile
walked aroudn teh house trying to get thinsg moving faster,by Midnight they were starting to get a littel ouchey but nothing bad so decided i best get some rest as it wouldnt be long before ild need all my energy for the delivery.
Sleep jsut wasnt going to happen,i tossed and turned and could not get comfortable and jsut as ild start to dooze a contraction would wake me up, i started gritting my teeth thru them so decided to get up and have a shower smile that was great stayed in there for ages!
at 4:55am i decided the pain was getting a little unbearable so i took 2 penadine fort ( bad move,slowed all my hard work down! contrcatiosn stopped)
7am contractiosn finally started again but were very mild almost like they were earlier in teh day before i went to hospital, i was devostated and kicking myself for taking them haha
11am after timing contractions and tehm being 3mins apart decided to make a move to the hospital. was taken straight into teh birthing suite and checked,foudn to be 5cm so she stretched me to 6cm and asked if she could break my waters as that was the only thing stopping baby making his way. waters broken and contractions started getting more feirce and at this point actually started to get to a pain i felt that i needed something so used the gas, it made me spew but once i was sick i felt great afterwards and the gas helped give me something to focus on rather then teh contraction it self and helped me to breathe thru teh contraction, inbetween contractions i was still laughing and chatting away grin
around 4pm i started getting presure but was in denial a litte so didnt get on the bed staright away LOL 4:55pm Mason Jay was born a beautiful 8lb 4oz
i only had a couple of grazes and bounced back like staright away i felt fine to go home LOL but stayed for 48hrs anyhow
we were back on the horse by week 3 tongue
recovery from vaginal delivery even if it is as horrible as my first experience is still far better then recovering from major abdominal syrgery with a newborn IMO and my birth with DS i loved ever min of it,as i said right up til the end i was laughing,joking and chatting away and he was an entire pound bigger then DD!
like yourself i was an 6/8 pre kids, now a size 10.
do your research and make a decsion for you self,best advice would be to listen to your midwive and dont panic or tense up,go with it & express your fears to them they may be able to ease them also telling them uld like to avoid an episiotomy or tearing they will be able to tell you what position to get into to help with that wink best of luck