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Hi all,

I Mc at 20 weeks on the 12/12 last year.

I was a mess at first but now i belive everythink happens for something. I belive that me and hubby was just not ment to have this baby this time around. We already have 2 boys and would love to add to our family.

Anyways i have an appointment on the 7th of feb i know its not that far but from going to having this little baby inside to me to nothing sux and i want that feeling back.

So we made a deal that we would not try for a baby until we found out what went wrong. (i in my head belive that it was something wrong with the baby then myself. I am sure if it was myself i would of been in pain etc)Last night was the first time since the mc that i let hubby get close to me when having sex befor i pushed him away and half way though told him to stop etc. But last night we never used nothing. I am not on the pill and if my body is right i could fall pregenant. I know my head is telling me not to start trying etc because if their is something wrong with me it could be fixed without having to go through this again. On the other hand my heart is telling me its ok you was ment to have another baby.

I have mixed messages through myself and i am a little lost as to how to feel to. I mean i was so happy this morning to think that last night was one step closer to getting me the baby i want and i walk around with a huge smile. The other part is walking around hoping that something bads not happening. Yes i know i should stop.


But i would like to know what you think about this.

I told hubby that if we do have another baby that i will not be telling noone but my hubby, my mum (as she is very close to me and support) and my manager at work just if i need time off etc. I don't want to say a word until i had that 20 week ultra sound to say if its all ok. Do you think i am being a bit silly by that. I am already a big girl being a size 16 so people may not know. I just found it hard telling everyone we lost the baby.

The other thing is my first son took a year to get him my second son we waited until my sons first birthday and fell preg that month this one we just lost took me 3 years to get trying (it was more like 5 years after my second son was born) so i am hoping it was just the we left it a long time between the second and theird. I am hoping that after my mc i can quickly get another one.

What are your feeling about sex after mc and how you feel about trying for another one

TTC a baby girl
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Firstly I'm sorry for your loss.

Please stop blaming yourself its no one fault or no one to blame

When a Miscarrage takes place the mother is not to blame.

I myself have had two Miscarrages I feel huge loss when I lost my babies.
First. Miscarrage was in July. 2000
Second. Miscarrage was in November 2011




I am scared. It may happen again however I love kids want more

I made decision to TTC


So I'm hoping I will be blessed with another baby this year.





My advice is please keep open communication with your partner & doctor on how your feeling.

I totally. Understand that you want to add to your family.

I'm sure it will happen when the time is right.

Remember no one to blame


Huge hugs please take of yourself.
Hi and I am so sorry for your loss.

I too had an MC at 20 weeks in Sept last year.

It is such a personal thing and noone can tell you how you should feel, or what you should do. It has to be what you decide, what you are comfortable with and what you want.

Having said that, here is a bit about my story.

I had a beautiful DD, prior to having my MC. I desperately wanted to start trying again as soon as I got the all clear from my OB. The wait until then was unbearable. But 6 weeks post my D&C he gave us the green light to try again. All tests on the placent and remains, showed no reason for the mc. Just one of those things.

So we jumped in and started trying again. I am now 14 weeks pregnant. We didn't want to tell anyone prior to 12 weeks to start with. We told our parents straight away and then that was it. I guess over time, we felt more and more comfortable with the pregnancy and gradually started telling those that 'needed to know'. I told one close friend for support at around 6 weeks, told my boss at around 8 weeks,as I was suffering from MS. At 14 weeks, I am still just telling people as they see my bump, or as I speak to them.

My advice to you, is not to keep a secret, because you are scared of something going wrong. To me that's all the more reason to tell someone. You will need support, whatever the outcome and it will be hard at the start.

Good luck! I hope you get your sticky bub soon. If you have any more questions, feel free to ask?
I'm so terribly sorry for your loss

Like you said, things happen for a reason so if you and DH do happen to fall pregnant again it was meant to be, iykwim.

You are probably right that your MC was related to a problem with your baby and not yourself. Women's intuition is a powerful thing. You've managed to carry 2 babies to term previously so unless something drastic has happened in that time I would say your body works as it should.

I would go see your doctor as soon as you can to have a full health check, etc. Tell them your concerns about possible future pregnancies and I'm sure they will have advice on the next steps to take.

Sorry I can't really add much else, but I do wish you the best of luck for the future.
Hi,

My story is similar to yours. DH and I lost our little boy in august last year. He had passed away at 17 weeks but we didn't find out until our 19 week ultrasound and was Induced and gave birth to him the next day.

We had conflicting advice from different drs, some said to ttc whenever we felt ready and one said to wait a year ( this was before we had the appointment that abou the test results)

In the end, we decided to ttc and fell pregnant in nov. ( they never did find out why we lost our baby)

So I am 12 and a half weeks pregnant but we have only told immediate family and our bosses ( the hospital have been wonderful and we have already had three scans, so needed to tell work to explain time off etc)

DH is much like you and really struggled grieving in public so he does not want to tell anyone until after our 19 week scan. I would prefer to share this pregnancy with ppl but respect his wishes.

I am really starting to show though and ppl have started asking my family members if I am pregnant ( I am about a size 16 too ) so realistically we won't be able to hide it for another 7 weeks....
I am really sorry to hear about your loss. I can understand how hard this all must be for you. Just stay positive and strong. Dont give up. I know going through an MC is one of the most difficult situations. However, if your first pregnancy was a smooth one that means that others could be as well. Therefore, just keep trying. Visit a good doctor for report analysis as well.
I am extremely sorry to hear about your MC. I can understand that this can be extremely hard to go through. I would suggest that stay positive and calm. For the process maybe this time ask for professional help. This is to avoid anymore MC. For the process visit people who are professionals. Good luck to you. Sending baby dust your way.
I am really sorry to hear about your loss. I can understand how hard it must have been for you. I believe you should be visiting a doctor first. Get your tests done. This will ensure that there is nothing wrong with you. This will then lead to you having a safe pregnancy. Sending baby dust your way. Stay strong!
I am really sorry to hear about your MC. I am glad that you guys dealt with things patiently. It is so important to first understand what went wrong. As that helps in ensuring that it doesn't happen again. Stay positive and strong. Good luck to you. I am in the middle of the process. So far everything is going really well.
I think that is the worst part of the MC. We are expecting a little too much from the process. When things fail for one it really leads to heartbreak. Most women start to imagine their life with the baby which is growing inside. Therefore, everyone who deals with it is indeed very strong. During this time it is important to stay positive and strong. Just visit a good doctor. Ask them for help.
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