I didn't get to hold my baby on the day she was born because of intruding in-laws.
My baby is now nine months old and I am still devastated. I had requested that family give me a little bit of space after the birth, unlike the birth of my previous daughter which had felt like a three ring circus. All I wanted was to be able to hold and bond with my baby in private with my hubby.
I had a planned c-section which turned out to be extremely stressful and I expected that my supposed "family" would respect my wishes and keep a respectful distance until I was ready for visitors. (They had already been with my baby for an HOUR while I was in recovery!) Instead they barged into my ward and stayed for HOURS. No one even offered to pass me the baby. When the anaesthetic wore off I was in a great deal of pain which I suffered through all night. I finally got to hold my daughter the next day.
I have so much anger in me still after all this time, I actually feel like I need to speak to a counseller or something to get past it.
Any comments or advice would be appreciated. I can't even make eye contact with my in-laws without reliving the whole hellish experience.
My baby is now nine months old and I am still devastated. I had requested that family give me a little bit of space after the birth, unlike the birth of my previous daughter which had felt like a three ring circus. All I wanted was to be able to hold and bond with my baby in private with my hubby.
I had a planned c-section which turned out to be extremely stressful and I expected that my supposed "family" would respect my wishes and keep a respectful distance until I was ready for visitors. (They had already been with my baby for an HOUR while I was in recovery!) Instead they barged into my ward and stayed for HOURS. No one even offered to pass me the baby. When the anaesthetic wore off I was in a great deal of pain which I suffered through all night. I finally got to hold my daughter the next day.
I have so much anger in me still after all this time, I actually feel like I need to speak to a counseller or something to get past it.
Any comments or advice would be appreciated. I can't even make eye contact with my in-laws without reliving the whole hellish experience.