Everyone is different it depends on each persons situation aswell
I come from a family where my father was 52 when i was born and coming from the childs point of view it makes me sad that im only 24 now and hes 76 and he keeps saying things like planning for his funeral etc etc (typical old people rubbish) but i spent my childhood growing up worrying if he will be alive when i get married, have my kids and all that. People think hes my grandfather (which doesnt bother me) but i just wish he was younger for MY sake.
He lives with me and my partner now coz he needs to be supervised as he has a problem with short term memory and somedays i wonder what it would be like if he was younger.......
So all thats from the childs perspective. Im sure alot of people would love to have children later in life and for other reasons but at the same time think of what the child will be like with an 'older' parent...
Hi Marmy 61.
What you say pretty spot on. I am forever wondering what my boys will think of me as we get older. I had my first at 19, then I had my little boys late in life at the ages of 37 and 38. I will be 41 this year, My daughter will be 22 and my boys will be 4 and 3. My husbands parents were 40 and 44 when he was conceived and when I asked him what it was like growing up with 'older parents', he said it never bothered him coz to him, they were his parents and their age didn't faze him one bit. He didn't know any better. However, I had another friend who had her daughter at 43 and when her daughter was 18, she straight out told her mum she was embarrasing coz she's so old and her friends think she's her nanna.
Personally I don't think anything up to 40 is too old. I know a few girls who've had them around that age. It really depends on how healthy you are too. If you still feel young physically and can cope, then go for it.
A part of me still yearns for another one. I just don't feel complete and would love just one more. I feel that i'm not ready to stop just yet but unfortunately we wont be having anymore due to the fear I had in my last pregnancy with my nearly 3 year old and having to have an amnio as he was at high risk of down syndrome. Thankfully, he didn't have it, but we just found out last week, he has mild/moderate Autism which has now made us definatly not have anymore. He is very demanding, and I want to just concentrate on making sure he gets the best care via early intervention that he needs and having a new born would not make that possible.
In the end of the day, do what you feel is right..Good luck.