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Hello, I am new to this forum and thought I just needed some support from other women going throught the same thing as me. I have been trying to conceive for 4 years now with 3 failed attempts of IVF and I am currently on my 4th cycle of clomid. I am quickly losing hope that I will ever start a family. I am in need of some support and hopefully some of you will share your stories with me to let me know im not alone on this fertility rollarcoaster.
Talk to you soon!!!
Hello and welcome,

As a starter, I will share my story, as one says, and hope it helps. I am fortunate to have not had to do IVF but have many friends who have or are and my heart goes out to you.

DS1 was conceived pretty much first month of trying properly. I was done. But then, when he was 2 I started thinking he probably did need a sibling - DH had always said he would like another but respected my decision. So, off the pill, started charting my cycle again....and nothing happened.

Tried multiple things: fertility friend (fantastic site), B12, chinese medicine etc etc. I had a short luteal phase but was ovulating every month. We BD'd when we should (and man, the fun of that wears off mighty quick) and still nada. Finally went and saw a reproductive endo - nothing wrong with me from blood tests and DH fine too. So, was told to have an exploratory lap. Thought about it for a few months and then had it (was not getting any younger). All good, except for a tight endo cervis (who knew we had those!) that they stretched. Thought, yeah, like that is going to do anything, and was pregnant my next cycle. 18 months in total.

If one more person told me to 'relax' I was going to bite them. If one more person was going to hassle me about having another baby I was going to scream. It is horrid, horrid, horrid, that we can control our fertility but not our infertility. I felt like our lives were constantly on hold while we were trying to conceive - I did not want to go for new jobs etc because what if I was not there for 12 months and therefore would not be entitled to mat leave? What to do with DS1's old stuff - keep or give away? And that need, which I had never felt before, to just have a baby - it kills you. Every time I hold DS2 I think how blessed I am to have him and his brother.

Anyway, my thoughts are with you. You should find a lot of support here but also check out fertility friend, some good forums there too (and a little less fraught than it can get on here at times LOL).

I've never done anything like this before and don't know all the "lingo" but I feel I know exactly where you are coming from.

I'm 24 and DH and I have been TTC for a good 20months now.
We were so excited when we decided we were going to start trying, but when I went off the pill I stopped having a period, I went to the Dr had some tests done and turns out I have Polycystic Ovary Syndrom (PCOS) and Ammenorrhea (Non-exitstant period)
We were referred to an OBGYN whom specialises in infertility. I was put on Clomid, which didn't work then I had an LOD Op, during which there were complications, and finially I was put on Puregon injections. I have done 7 or 8 cycles of Puregon and always have had either no folicles or too many folicles so in 18months we have had no chance to even attempt fertilisation, until feb this year. We decided not to leave things to too much chance and oppted for insemination. And finally after all we've been though all the injections and blood tests, we were pregnant!! But I sadly miscarriaged at 5.5 weeks. And now here we are a month later and planning to start trying again soon.

I hope this helps you, I know when I hear other peoples stories it helps me. Just knowing yur not the only is a good feeling.

And I totally agree about people telling you to relax and think possitive, I feel like saying to them are you going through it?? No? than shut-up!! lol
Thank you so much for sharing your stories with me, it helped me a lot hearing these positive stories. I think I was just having a bad day and everyone around me either was pregnant or had a baby with them. I still have hope and I am thinking positive thoughts and keep going on the clomid. And I agree, if one more person tells me to relax I will also scream haha!
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