Hi Archers Mummy
I think that is a pretty normal reaction from the mens folk. I get a bit of that too. I think they don't understand that having children isn't really a choice its often a need, an overwhelming desire that we just can't control. Its made worse when you feel like you have to beg them to perform. Not sure what the answer is. We are definately created differently.
I don't think they really get it. They don't go through the fake symtoms, they don't notice every other woman in the world that already has a baby, and they don't separate trying to have a baby from intimacy.
Maybe you could just discuss with him how you are feeling. Explain to him how hard this is for you. Might make a difference.
If that fails you might have to put your foot down.
Hope it works out ok.
I am quite depressed today and I am hoping that I am not the only person who has gone through this! DH and I had a huge argument this morning about TTC... We have BD'ed for the last 5 days and I am due to ovulate on Monday. My OPK showed a faint line yesterday so I am guessing that it is definitely Monday.... DH is definitely feeling the pressure and he feels as if this is the only reason why we are BD'ing... Ummmm well yes it is one of the BIG reasons as to why we are but it's not the only. I think he is feeling a little used and abused. This caused an argument and I am in a mood. He explained his reasons to me and would like to see a little more "loving" occur before and after.
I said that maybe we should stop TTC and just wait and see what happens. I have been doing the Shettles method as I would love a little girl (don't yell... I would be happy with a boy also!!!!) and I explained all the changes I have made too but I think it is starting to take a toll as I am a bit obsessive when it comes to things I want... wink And since the wedding is over, this is my next big thing! I give my 100%... Maybe sometimes it can be a bit overbearing????
Thanks for listening...