So that is why I am pretty annoyed. I cheated , but that does NOT make me unfit to be a mother.
Jesus, imagine everyone in the entire world who have cheated once in their lives. Almost all of them have kids. So what does that mean? Because someone makes a mistake you cant have kids????
Thats messed up.
I agree with you. I do think cheating is unacceptable, but usually it is the man who cheats and women tend to be conditioned to "turn a blind eye" and just accept that they cannot possibly ever be enough for a man sexually, so that is mainly where my issues with cheating come from.
There are a lot of people who do things that I feel are unacceptable to do if you have children or if you are going to be a mother or father, but mostly people are pretty hypocritical, and noone can really do anything about what they thnk. For instance, someone may have a rich partner but this partner never spends time with his family. And this mother may feel herself superior to a poor family who rents and does not have the same luxuries, but who are close and happy. Other families will not drink or smoke, but will eat junk food every day. Then they think themselves superior to those who drink or smoke but who eat healthily. Or someone who breastfeeds and feeds their kids junk, as opposed to someone who formula feeds but instills healthy habits in their family. There are countless scenarios, and I think you were attacked because cheating is not what "a woman is supposed to do" (so sexism) and because some people really want babies (so it is kind of like a kick in the teeth you know, when you seem to not want your baby).
I do think if your partner has cheated with an escort, that is a huge worry. But I know that there are so many men who use escort sevices and who just don't get caught. It is a huge industry, and there is probably a large portion of people on huggies who have cheating partners who are just not aware.
I don't see why your reaction was over the top really, you were hurt and upset (I haven't read what you are talking about but get the gist), and everyone does things out of emotion sometime. Also, why should you just sit there and be cheated on? Because you are the woman and should no better? That is a really sexist idea.
I hope it gets sorted out. Your fiance does not deserve you if he used the services of an escort.