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thanks Lock Rss

Seek help.. as someone suggested, see your GP and please don't come on here and talk about having an abortion when there are people on here who have lost precious little angels and some who are trying to make their own.
You and you "DF" are as bad as each other.

So that is why I am pretty annoyed. I cheated , but that does NOT make me unfit to be a mother.

Jesus, imagine everyone in the entire world who have cheated once in their lives. Almost all of them have kids. So what does that mean? Because someone makes a mistake you cant have kids????

Thats messed up.


I agree with you. I do think cheating is unacceptable, but usually it is the man who cheats and women tend to be conditioned to "turn a blind eye" and just accept that they cannot possibly ever be enough for a man sexually, so that is mainly where my issues with cheating come from.

There are a lot of people who do things that I feel are unacceptable to do if you have children or if you are going to be a mother or father, but mostly people are pretty hypocritical, and noone can really do anything about what they thnk. For instance, someone may have a rich partner but this partner never spends time with his family. And this mother may feel herself superior to a poor family who rents and does not have the same luxuries, but who are close and happy. Other families will not drink or smoke, but will eat junk food every day. Then they think themselves superior to those who drink or smoke but who eat healthily. Or someone who breastfeeds and feeds their kids junk, as opposed to someone who formula feeds but instills healthy habits in their family. There are countless scenarios, and I think you were attacked because cheating is not what "a woman is supposed to do" (so sexism) and because some people really want babies (so it is kind of like a kick in the teeth you know, when you seem to not want your baby).

I do think if your partner has cheated with an escort, that is a huge worry. But I know that there are so many men who use escort sevices and who just don't get caught. It is a huge industry, and there is probably a large portion of people on huggies who have cheating partners who are just not aware.

I don't see why your reaction was over the top really, you were hurt and upset (I haven't read what you are talking about but get the gist), and everyone does things out of emotion sometime. Also, why should you just sit there and be cheated on? Because you are the woman and should no better? That is a really sexist idea.

I hope it gets sorted out. Your fiance does not deserve you if he used the services of an escort.

Thing is, she didn't come here looking for absolution - she just wants sympathy. She's not saying "OMG I've just done a terrible thing", she's just coming up with different excuses for her actions. She doesn't give a stuff that she's potentially exposed her DF to STIs - all she cares about is how this is going to affect her.


Yes, but I think people are really sexist! STI's? Because she is a cheating whore? Pretty medieveal isn't it? Her partner cheated with a hooker!!!! That is pretty terrible but I don't see anyone mentioning that!
REPOSTING: AS I DON'T WANT MY POST TO BE LOST WITH THIS THREAD...

ESCORT... WTF??? HOLY CRAP!!! SOME PEOPLE... NINA... please don't read that crap..... seriously girls!!!

Hey Nina,

You girls won't know me... however I have been a huggies member for many many years and spent many hours in the general section...

I have to say I truly am shocked by many of the replies.... not once did Nina say she was still ttc... she actually said she was taking a break as they had other things that needed to be sorted out... it was in the first paragraph... but I'm thinking some of you went straight into attack mode rather than reading the post at hand....

Secondly who are any of you to judge what Nina has done... don't you think she feels bad enough already... an old saying... *Clean up your own backyard ladies before trying to clean others* or more to the point kicking someone while they are down...

A PP also commented on how many poor Nina posts their were... ummm Nina hasn't posted in a few months as she has had other things on her mind...

So "Girls" rather than all ganging up... being the keyboard warrior you all are... big and tough!! you girls should grow up... as your comments were not warranted....

Nina, hun we have all made many mistakes in our lives... some are more deep than others... you know you have possibly done the wrong thing however I think your actions truly are telling you to think long and hard about your current relationship and what you want out of it....

You do have other options... if you are pregnant... and maybe could seek some counselling and have a chat to a third party or maybe your doctor...

Whatever you decide to do I wish you all the best hun...

Feel free to pm - if we still can... lol as I have not been on in ages...

Tammy
xx


In the future Nina, please remember that this is a forum for people with babies or small children, or trying to get pregnant. If there's a topic you would like to discuss relating to those things, please feel free to post!
If you want to discuss your sexual promiscuity, I'm sure there are websites for that..


It is a forum for parents and those wanting to become parents, I do not see why her relationship problems do not fit into this category.... it is completelt relevant to parenting. Just because you see her "promiscuity" as an awful thing does not mean that it is. Women can have children whatever their sexual natures or beliefs, and even single women can have children. It is a public forum as well, anyone can post at any time. There are not "rules" about whether you may offend people who have been trying to have a baby and are unsuccessful. What makes you or anyone else on here any more worthy than Nina? Because she cheated on her partner? Is that it?!!!!!

Yes, but I think people are really sexist! STI's? Because she is a cheating whore? Pretty medieveal isn't it? Her partner cheated with a hooker!!!! That is pretty terrible but I don't see anyone mentioning that!


A fair few people have mentioned that. It seems to me that her partner cheating/using an escort is a justification to what she has done. It's not.
I don't think man OR woman should cheat. They both did a terrible thing to each other and honestly a very weak thing to deal with their problems.

Not everyone here is having a go at here but merely giving their opinions on the subject, yes some quite nasty but some that she should really be taking into consideration. People are just saying that she obviously has alot of thinking to do and may possibly need help. If she choose not to listen or doesnt want to read what has been said than that is up to her but do not come onto an online forum asking for one specific set of adivce because it won't happen.

It is a forum for parents and those wanting to become parents, I do not see why her relationship problems do not fit into this category.... it is completelt relevant to parenting. Just because you see her "promiscuity" as an awful thing does not mean that it is. Women can have children whatever their sexual natures or beliefs, and even single women can have children. It is a public forum as well, anyone can post at any time. There are not "rules" about whether you may offend people who have been trying to have a baby and are unsuccessful. What makes you or anyone else on here any more worthy than Nina? Because she cheated on her partner? Is that it?!!!!!

Her relationship problems dont fit in the PLANNING FOR PREGNANCY CATEGORY!
Maybe relationships would of been better???

Her relationship problems dont fit in the PLANNING FOR PREGNANCY CATEGORY!
Maybe relationships would of been better???


Oh, I see..... Good point.

I don't think man OR woman should cheat.


I agree. I was talking about the more sexist implications on here, and the judgements with underlying sexism.

Her relationship problems dont fit in the PLANNING FOR PREGNANCY CATEGORY!
Maybe relationships would of been better???


You've hit it on the head here. Think that is what has upset a lot of people. As far what I think about Nina's actions goes....it's pretty much been covered with everyone else's replies. Nina honey, if you're going to post your problems publicly, then everyone has the right to reply just as publicly. I think you would have been better off confiding in a trusting friend instead, or as mentioned above, a different category.






I agree. I was talking about the more sexist implications on here, and the judgements with underlying sexism.

roll eyes Do you honestly believe if it was a man that posted he'd cheated on his fiance after having a fight that he wouldn't be met with similar judgement? (Cheatings a terrible thing, fess up, see a gp etc.) I actually think the replies would have been a lot more offensive.

Oh and the only one to say she's a cheating whore is yourself...

roll eyes Do you honestly believe if it was a man that posted he'd cheated on his fiance after having a fight that he wouldn't be met with similar judgement? (Cheatings a terrible thing, fess up, see a gp etc.) I actually think the replies would have been a lot more offensive.




I'd have to agree...a man posting the same thing on this site would have been met with the same comments, if not worse.

All in all I just don't think things were set out in the right way, i think putting it in the wrong section is what really got to alot of people.
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